Becoming a Parent vs. Being a Parent: Yeah, there’s a difference

ByLona

Becoming a Parent vs. Being a Parent: Yeah, there’s a difference

What a joyous time in one’s life, to welcome a beautiful little baby into the world. To look into their eyes, adoringly, and see all the wonders of the Lord staring right back at you. It’s an indescribable bliss. Then you leave the hospital. The next few weeks are a blur of feedings, changings, bathings, little sleep and thanking the Lord that someone was smart enough to invent the DVR. Sure, it sounds like a lot of hard work (and believe you me, it is) but when you get that first smile, giggle, or hear “Mama” slip out, it’s all worth it.

Some parents get some time off to be with the family, some return to work, and some are blessed enough to be able to stay home with their children. Any way the family functions, the central focus is now the youngest person in the room; baby. It’s an ancient mindset, I know, but I remember someone telling me once that times change, morals do not. (Thanks mom!)

That’s how the story goes, right? Baby makes three and the world makes sense? Ok, fast forward about 50 years, and my how things have changed. These days instead of a bowling league, the scene is the bar. You go, you drink, you pick up your baby from a grandparent the next day or the day after that. Having a baby shouldn’t disallow you to have a social life, right? True, however, your social focus should shift. You should be seeking ways to spend more time as a family, as a complete unit. That’s the way the Lord intended it. Why does our generation spend more time on the stool at the bar than the bench at the park? Or how about the chairs in the sanctuary?

As my first contribution to this blog, I’d like to challenge everyone out there to change one activity next week from a “Me” thing to a “We” thing. Remember that just as you looked to your parents for the example of what parents look, act, and sound like, your children will look to you for the same. Be the example of what you want your children to have. Show them that God gifted them to you, and that you have the greatest appreciation for that gift. Another nugget from my mother – You have two chances at the child-parent relationship. Once as the child, the other as the parent.

May God Bless you!

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  • I’m so glad you posted this Kelli! Sadly, in this day and age, children are an accessory and not a responsibility. Keep preaching it like it is! Love it!