Category Archive Positive Changes

ByJennifer A. Janes

Success Is Possible, Even After You’ve Blown It

As moms, we’re pretty hard on ourselves. If dinner burns, we forgot to get five things at the grocery store (although, in all fairness, they weren’t on the list), the kids misbehaved in Sunday school, or the neighbor complains that our dog is too noisy, we’re quick to blame ourselves. But what about when a marriage struggles, relationships with our children are strained, or we lose a job? Right. We blame ourselves there too.

 

Success is possible, Even after you've blown it - Jennifer A. Janes - Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven - RaisingStickyHands.com

 

We’re human. Of course we bear part of the blame! But most of these scenarios involve situations and people that we can’t control on our own. So we aren’t wholly to blame, even though it feels like it.

 

How do you recover from failures like these? How do you survive the stress and strain? How do you find success again? There are solutions, and they’re not as complicated as you might expect, whether the issues are big or small:

 

 

  • Seek forgiveness. From God, the people you’ve hurt or offended, and yourself. Without forgiveness, you may find a root of bitterness, anger, or resentment taking root, and that will make your problems worse, not better.
  • Ask God what you can do to change the situation. Obviously, a recipe that needs tweaking will be much easier to fix than a relationship that needs repair. God has the answers for every situation, and He can show you exactly what to do to facilitate the healing and restoration that need to take place.
  • Pray for the other people involved. Pray that while God is doing a work in you, that the other people involved in the situation will allow Him to work in their lives too.
  • Remember that your today doesn’t define your tomorrow. While we sometimes have to live with the consequences of today’s choices for a long time, it doesn’t mean that we’re trapped into continuing along the same path indefinitely. You can choose to make a different choice today than you made yesterday, and God is right there to help you do it.
  • Take deep breaths. If you’re living in the aftermath of abuse or divorce, it can be easy to respond as if the family members in your life today are the same ones who caused you so much pain and heartache in the past. Don’t let your past ruin your relationships with people who behave like they’re supposed to but are human and make mistakes. I have had to do this when confronted with possible trust issues with my husband. He is not the man who hurt me so many years ago.

Obviously, these are pretty vague, and they don’t apply equally to all situations, but the basic principles are there. God can help you through any failure you find yourself in. He will see you through all the pain and heartache to the other side, if you will surrender yourself to Him to bring the healing and restoration you need.

ByJennifer A. Janes

Embracing The “New Normal”: How To Handle Change

I’ve been gluten-free since last summer. I went dairy-free the first of this year. I recently started getting back into the routine of exercising four to five times a week, and I’m making every effort to read and crochet each day. In addition to my daily quiet time, I’ve started taking a “time out” several times a day to read some Psalms and pray. In the past few weeks, I’ve drastically reduced my sugar consumption.

 

Yes, my life looks much different from many people’s. Some of these decisions I made for my physical health. Some of these decisions I made for my mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Following the culture hasn’t worked for me. I needed a change.

 Embracing The "New Normal": How To Handle Change - "The thing about change is that it’s uncomfortable." Jennifer shares some advice on how to handle change in our lives when it is not easy. An encouraging post by Jennifer A. Janes at Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven

The thing about change is that it’s uncomfortable. It’s hard to learn a new way of eating, to rearrange your schedule to accommodate exercise, to stop throughout the day to pause and remember that God is in your day with you and you’re not alone. It makes me uncomfortable to have to ask for the manager every time I enter a restaurant (in addition to being dairy- and gluten-free, I also have a life-threatening allergy to another food) and to demand (nicely, of course) that they take appropriate steps to keep me safe. I don’t particularly appreciate the discomfort involved in exercise and the soreness that accompanies working out.

 

I do, however, like the results of all of these changes. That’s why I continue to press forward with my plans.

 

The longer I do these things, the more they become habits, part of the dailiness of my life, the more I embrace them because they’re good for me and because I feel better when I do them.

 

They become my “new normal.” After a while, they don’t feel new anymore. They just feel normal. Explaining why I do what I do seems less embarrassing and more matter of course. It’s just what I do.

 

If you’re trying to make big changes in your life, start with one thing at a time. Don’t try to make all of them at once. When one change begins to feel normal, start another one.

 

There’s no way to tell exactly how long it will take for you to feel “normal” about the changes you’re making. It depends on your personality and the magnitude of the change you’re making. Give yourself grace. Embrace the change, knowing that it will eventually feel normal.

 

I’m the queen of keeping things comfortable and familiar. Change is difficult and scary for me. If I can do this, you can too. As a wise friend told me last week, “Just do the next right thing.” That’s how you change your life.

 

What is your best tip for making a big change?

 

ByAngie

Introducing Building Character With Children With Shirley Solis

By now you’ve probably seen me talking a lot about Building Character With Children, a new program by Shirley Solis, in social media. But just in case you haven’t had a chance to check out the FREE video for yourself, I want to tell you a little bit about how well it has worked for our family.

I am beyond surprised with how her technique of teaching my son to do his chores every morning without being asked has worked! I’ve been trying for a few years to get Tommy, 5, to pitch in a little more around the house. I’m not talking massive housework, just basic chores and taking care of himself. With the advice that Shirley offered in the first free video, he is now doing 5 things every morning before he eats breakfast. He even memorized what the 5 chores are on the first day! It not only worked, but it was so simple on my part.  Needless to say, tag me, I’m sold! I wish this woman was in front of me so I could give her the biggest hug.

If you’re wondering if Shirley Solis’ program is good for you, just stop and think about your family for a moment.

Are you frustrated with your children’s attitudes?

Are you tired of doing all the chores around the house?

Do you wish the children helped around the house a little more?

Need creative ways to train your children?

Want to start the year off right and finally train your children consistently?

Are you constantly yelling at your children?

Are you tired of arguing with your children?
Building Character with Children

Building Character with Children is a brand new video-based program with homeschool mom, author, and speaker Shirley Solis. In these short, 7-minute videos, Shirley shares her experience as a mom of 6 children, with tips and tricks to build strong, desirable character traits in your children!

In Building Character with Children, you will learn:

  • How to train your children to learn a new habit in just a few minutes a day (so you won’t have to keep repeating yourself!)
  •  The 3 reasons why your children don’t do their chores AND what to do about it!
  • What to do about sibling rivalry and how to resolve conflicts easily and peacefully!
  • The #1 reason why children are lacking character today and how to change that!

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ByAngie

Angie’s One Word For 2014 – Serve

This post contains affiliate links.

 

Serve

 

First of all, I want to make it clear that I am not trying to sound uber-spiritual or profound by choosing the word “serve” for my One Word for 2014. Trust me, I am far from being near as spiritual (or profound) as I would love to be. I’m way too human for my own good, in fact, which is part of the reason I have chosen this word to base my year upon. I want to get back to basics, and to fully humble myself I need to serve.

The word serve has very many meanings. Just go to your favorite dictionary and you’ll see. All but a few are what I would like to do or be this year. (I could do without being a volleyball bouncing between two hands, thankyouverymuch.) In all seriousness, I want to serve instead of be served. To help instead of be helped. I want to do everything that God would have me to do. My heart, soul, and mind want to intentionally be everything I am meant to be: A good wife, a strong mother, a friend, and more. I want to give my time to battle for the Lord the way our military battles for our country. I want to serve.

 

Starting The Year Off Right

 

I don’t want recognition. In fact, if you know me personally then you know that I hate to have any sort of attention brought to me. I’m shy, awkward, and terribly clumsy. I just want to know that someday when I look back at this life, I will honestly be able to say I did everything I could. I told everyone that I was able about God’s love. I shared Jesus with those who needed Him. I helped the ones who couldn’t help themselves. I served the Lord with all I had and never took Him for granted.

 

24Now there was also a dispute among them, as to which of them should be considered the greatest. 25And He said to them, “The kings of the Gentiles exercise lordship over them, and those who exercise authority over them are called ‘benefactors.’ 26But not so among you; on the contrary, he who is greatest among you, let him be as the younger, and he who governs as he who serves. 27For who is greater, he who sits at the table, or he who serves? Is it not he who sits at the table? Yet I am among you as the One who serves.
28“But you are those who have continued with Me in My trials. 29And I bestow upon you a kingdom, just as My Father bestowed one upon Me, 30that you may eat and drink at My table in My kingdom, and sit on thrones judging the twelve tribes of Israel.”  
Luke 22:24-30 NKJV-

 

Will I be able to say those things? Not likely. I’ve already made more mistakes than I can count. But I want to know I did my best to serve Him the best ways I know how.

To put this into action will take a lot of careful listening on my part. In order to serve God, I need to know what He asks of me and be lined up with His will and calling for my life. In order to serve my husband, I need to listen to what he needs me to do in order to be his helpmeet. To serve my children and family, I need to know what they are in need of so I can provide it (or say no as needed). I can’t just run around willy nilly doing things that I feel are helping to serve a purpose. I must line up with His purpose. Even when I might think I’m doing a good thing for someone else.

 

Serve

 

When I was a little girl I sang a song in church. If you were a kid in church in the 80’s you probably know it. The first time I heard it on a Psalty Kid’s Praise VHS, I begged my Mom to buy me the accompaniment track on cassette so I could stand in front of the church and sing it. I memorized those words, walked up to the platform, looked at the floor, and belted them out as shy as I could without once looking out at everyone in front of me. “If you want to be great, in God’s kingdom, learn to be a servant of allllllll…”

While trying to decide on a word for this year, my family and I sat down and watched the old recording and the memories flooded back to me, as did words that I memorized. I want to be a servant of all for Him. Just like that little girl did 20 years ago. Time to get back to basics…

 

Serve

How about you? Do you have One Word for 2014?

For more posts about how we are Starting The Year Off Right, click here!

ByAngie

Review: Chaos…Simplified The Womans {life} Planner

As promised a few days ago, I am bringing you some tips and ways that I have managed to “survive” the last year of extreme chaos in our lives. Unfortunately, our website has been acting a little finicky so that I haven’t been able to post ANYTHING the last few days. FINALLY today I’m able to get on here. What a relief! So without further ado, I am sharing the biggest help to my life recently.

Chao...Simplified

For the last few months, I have had the pleasure of looking over and using The Womans {life} Planner by Chaos… Simplified. The name of this product is truly a perfect fit for how it has affected my life! I could literally talk about what a wonderful tool this product is non-stop. Just ask my family that I’m spending the weekend with in Palm Springs right now on a Mother/Daughter retreat… They might have said, “Okay, we get it. Just order us some already…”

In my life I have used SO many planners and organizers. I’ve tried making my own to fit my life. I’ve spent big bucks on electronic gadgets and books. I’ve even tried the whole white board organization system. I am honest in admitting to anyone I have a real problem with time management, remembering tasks, and staying on top of general organization of what needs to be done when. Disarray, people. That is my life without some sort of system in place.

Chaos… Simplified, the brain child of Corri L. Bitner, has taken the chore of keeping it all together out of the equation. With The Womans {life} Planner, in one easy to carry binder that easily fits in a average sized purse, you have everything a busy Mom on the go might need. Actually, I need to clarify: Almost everything. As my Mom pointed out, it does not have a cup holder. Other than that, it’s all there.

The Womans {life} planner is technically two products in one. It begins with The Womans {week by week} Planner.

The Womans {week by week} Planner is a spiral bound week by week formatted calendar and organizer. When you first open it up, there are a few pages of scripture, encouragement, and suggestions from the author along with some snippets of articles that she feels are helpful. Reading these pages I found myself nodding my head in agreement and quickly circling and underlining every part that I particularly liked. Without giving anything away, let’s just say that I’ve changed my thoughts on being hospitable… This system has truly changed my life in ways I never imagined, and this area is one of them.

Chaos... SimplifiedIn addition, there are sections to jot down birthdays, a 5 year plan for events and goals, go to meals, cleaning agenda, (LOVE this!), holiday planning, wish list, budgeting, websites & passwords, important numbers, and addresses.

Each day of the weekly calendar is broken down into today’s top 3 priorities followed by an area to write down lists and plans for the day. THIS has been my saving grace! I can write the 3 things that MUST be done that day at the top where they are easily seen and not forgotten. There is also a little area for tracking how much water you are drinking every day, with 8 droplets of water at top under today’s priorities for you to check off as you drink throughout the day. Each week also has a section for things to do, phone calls to make, and notes. Again, all things that I needed to keep track of. Having it all in one place and at a glance has truly made my life much easier.

The Womans {life} Planner is the binder that holds it all. Containing 5 note pads, The Womans {week by week} Planner, and an area to attach a pen, everything is kept together so neatly that you can open it anywhere and quickly close it to take it with you on the go. The note pads are:

  • The art of juggling – This is probably my favorite of the note pads. It has grids for personal, household, financial, family, and work to do lists. I LOVE having it all right there to see all together.
  • Today’s most important tasks – A self-explained note pad to write down your list and tear it away.
  • My dreams & doodles – I use this note pad to write down all the things that I want to sew, make, and do.
  • What’s cookin’ baby? – A month at a glance menu plan. LOVE
  • Gotta pick it up – A shopping list that is large enough to contain a good sized amount of groceries.

I can’t say enough great things about this product. I went from being scattered and unable to keep everything contained to being able to control the chaos in my life more than I have in a long time. I never leave the house without it, always finding myself pulling it out to write down notes, reminders, and memories.

One other fun little thing about this system: The quotes and scriptures throughout The Womans {week by week} Planner. There have been a few times I was feeling down or stressed and the little reading on the page I was on gave me encouragement and a little pick me up.

I highly recommend this planner and organizer to anyone who has a tough time keeping it all together, especially new moms. Oh how I wish I had this when my babies were new to track feedings and diaper changes. It would have made life a whole lot easier, let me tell you!

Click here to visit Chaos…Simplified and order a planner of your own! The Womans {week by week} planner is regularly $19.95 and The Womans {life} planner is regularly $59.95. Both are on sale right now though! And for readers of Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven, Chaos…Simplified is offering FREE SHIPPING using the promo code: “freeship”!

Thank you, Chaos…Simplified! Thank you thank you thank you THANK YOU! Not only for allowing me to do this review, but also for literally simplifying the chaos in my life. I cannot stress how much this planner has positively changed my life.

ChaosSimplified

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Happy Tuesday!

Tommy, 2 years ago, "helping" me exercise.

Well, here we are. Another Tuesday. Another opportunity to enjoy the gift of life that our Lord has given us.

I don’t have much on the agenda today. A little homeschool with Tommy, make a few lap books, and hopefully finish up a sewing project I’ve been working on the last few months.

Oh, and yeah, I’m starting back to my diet today. Thankfully, I only gained 2lbs since I took my break a few weeks ago.

Last night I laid in bed tossing and turning. All I could think of was how much I miss exercising. I haven’t made a true effort to stick to a regular work out routine in some time. I miss the endorphins, the soreness, the awareness that I was doing something good for myself. So, another goal for today is to get everything in place to start back right away. This will include setting up our forgotten DVD player for my workout DVDs (Richard Simmons’ “Sweatin’ To The Oldies” & Lindsay Brin’s “Postnatal Bootcamp”), putting batteries in my Wii balance board, and finding all my workout clothes and putting them in one place. I’m so excited!

As a result, I couldn’t get this good ol’ song from Saved By The Bell out of my head:

Put your mind to it, go for it. Get down and break a sweat… Rock n Roll… You ain’t seen nothing yet!

Is it in your head too now? Good. Because that was my goal.

Thankfully, God put a new song in my heart this morning. “Our God Reigns”! Hallelujah!

How lovely are the mountains at the feet of Him

Who brings good news, Good news!

Something to shout about!

Time to go teach my little guy about community helpers. Preschool is just too much fun, no?