Category Archive Creating A Legacy

ByDiania

Momma’s Hands

These were the hands that rocked me gently

And kept me safe from harm

They gently guided me through life

And sheltered me in the storm

They worked for years to carry the weight

Of what should have been carried by two

They didn’t question the road they went down

They just did what they had to do

They guided my steps through a narrow path

They taught me the way I should go

They planted seeds beyond my reach

And left them for me to sow

I learned John 3:16 before I could read

And to treat others with kindness and care

I knew if I had something you needed

It was left up to me to share

These hands weren’t created for idle work

They were created to show me the way

Though I never knew when these hands grew

They’d wave goodbye someday

As they folded in prayer at an old kitchen chair

Streaks of tears stained a table

For the promise of God was impressed in her heart

And with Him she knew she was able

 

 

 

Written on May 9th, 2012 for Diania’s Mom, whom went to Heaven on May 14th. “Momma” heard the poem and was very pleased. Diania is looking forward to seeing her Mom again, someday. Praise the Lord!

BySherry

Preacher Man (My Legacy – Part 2)

My Parents, Bruce & Debbie Ingle

My Parents, Bruce & Debbie Ingle

In 1990 Jon Gibson released one of my favorite albums, Jesus Loves Ya.  One of my favorite songs on the album is called Preacher Man.  This song reminds me of my Dad, Bruce Ingle.  When this album was released Dad had recently gotten his ministers license.  Whenever I hear the song, I think of dad.

My dad was born in 1950.  He says he came to know Jesus when he was the rottenest, most vile sinner at the age of 4 (Yes, he has that type of humor).  He met my mom at Pentecostal Bible College in 1971 and was married in January of 1972.  He got the best gift of his life, me (Sorry, Nate) in 1973.  Then my brother came along in 1974.  We grew up in Southern California.  He was ornery, like my Poppy, and had a habit of hiding and scaring the life out of us.  He was very patient about it too.  One time he hid under Nate’s bed for over 2 hours to scare him.  He has also done other things, that people in the church couldn’t quite believe until he started practical joking them!

Dad worked at a Rental yard for a long time, 18 years I think.  He never wanted to become a pastor.  His dad was a pastor, as was his Father-in-law, and he and mom agreed they were content just working in churches.

As we grew up, Dad passed along his love of music to Nate and me.  The first time I ever sang with him was in Perris, Ca.  I was very, very young, and we sang “I Get A Little Closer” by the Imperials.  Dad played his guitar, and I held the mic, hidden behind the pulpit with my back to the congregation, and sang my little heart out.  I’ve always loved singing with my dad.

When we became teenagers, Dad would always take Nate to baseball games, and me to concerts.  He endured many Kim Boyce, Jon Gibson, Bryan Duncan, The Allies, etc. concerts.  Dad likes a wide variety of music.  The first concert he ever took us to was to see Jake Hess, JD Sumner, Rovie Lister, James Blackwood, and  Rosie Rozell.  I didn’t realize the history of Christian music that was in that room until I was older, but it was a great time.

My favorite place Dad and Mom would take us was Christian Nights at Knott’s Berry Farm.  About 3 times a year, Knott’s held from 8 pm to 2 am a huge Christian concert.  Dad, Nate, and I would go from concert to concert.  One time while waiting for the Allies to play we couldn’t find dad; all of a sudden we looked on stage because people were starting to clap and there was dad walking the stage with Randy Thomas, who played the guitar.  Pretty soon our friends were yelling, “Bruce, Bruce, Bruce.”  Then the whole crowd was yelling his name.  It was pretty funny.

Later the same night, we went to see DC Talk.  Dad disappeared again.  He climbed up a rock wall and lay on his side next to speaker be bopping to the music. Pretty soon Toby Mac strolled over and shook hands with him.  My dad was pretty stinking cool.

Dad began in my teen years to feel a call to pastor.  In 1993, he was elected to a church in Northern California in a town called Susanville.  He and Mom have been pastors up here in Northeast California for 18 ½ years.  I am happy to serve as Music Director under his leadership.

While growing up, Dad and Mom taught us how to have faith in God.  Whether it was good times, or bad they always remained faithful.  Thank you, Dad, for your unwavering faith and raising me to know God.  I love you.  Oh yeah, Happy birthday!!

 

BySherry

My Legacy

Got Any River’s?

Written by Oscar C. Eliason

Got any rivers, you think are uncrossable?
Got any mountains you can’t tunnel through?
God specializes in thing thought impossible
He does the things others cannot do.

As I have gotten older, I have been really interested in my genealogy.  Even the Bible has a great Genealogy guideline.  As I fill out my family tree, I have been reflecting more on my grandparents influence in my life.  I would like to start this little series about my Poppy (Paul Lucas).  My grandfather was born in 1924 in Oklahoma.  He grew up in a small town and was very ornery!  His father was a blacksmith, and his grandfather the Sheriff.

I have many great memories of my Poppy and Granny.  Poppy and Granny were always there to encourage me with my singing (Granny still does!).  They took me, my brother, and my cousins to Youth Rally’s, Fellowship Meetings, District and General Conventions, and even to our National Teen Talent Expo in Florida.  Poppy taught me how to drive, which I think he took many heart pills for!   They were always an encouragement to all of their children and grandchildren, even when we were difficult.

One thing that I remember most about my Poppy is his love for Jesus.  He showed us grandkids the love of God.  He was an example to his family by showing us how to be patient, kind, and still tell the truth, even if it hurts.

Poppy and Granny always sang together when they were in the car.  Poppy would always start Got Any Rivers?, and Granny would harmonize with him.  Then Poppy would whistle the song and Granny would hum along.  Even though I was a teenager and would roll my eyes at my cousins or brother when they would start singing this, the song has really stuck with me.  I would even sing it under my breath at times.

Poppy had a stroke in the winter of 1992.  Even that didn’t stop him from doing God’s work.  He witnessed to numerous people.  He was even planning a new church if God healed him.  He and Gran even sang Got Any Rivers? He never lost faith or went into a pity party about his condition.

I spent the summer of 1994 with Poppy and Granny.  During that time, I read a book about a boy who grew up when my Poppy did.  As I would talk the little songs in the book, Poppy would start singing them.  I had so much fun that summer. I learned about him and his childhood. It will always be a memory that could not be compared.  It was then I truly started realizing the example he had on my life.

This past October I went to visit my cousin Hollie, she brought out an old tape recording of my Poppy singing some of his songs to her oldest son, Travis, when he was a baby.  For the first time in 15 years, I heard my Poppy’s voice.  As I sat, listened, laughed, and cried, I watched my kids’ faces and seeing my son’s, Lucas, eyes light up at the funny songs, it made me a little sad that they never got to know him.  However, there is a day, very soon I pray, that they will know each other and I know that he will give them the biggest hug in the whole world.

It makes me happy to know that I am raising my kids to have the same type of faith and values that my Poppy and Granny have passed along.  Yes, we are ornery at times; but, my kids know how much God loves them and that He has a plan for their lives.

Do you have a person who is an example of Christ in your life?  If so, and you get a chance; tell that person how much they mean in your life.  Let them know you appreciate the Godly example they have made in your walk with God.

And for my family members who may be reading this, “Oooey Gooey was a worm.  A big fat worm was he.  He climbed up on a railroad track, the train he did not see.  OOOOEEYY GOOEY!!!”

ByAngie

Christmas Traditions…

Do you have any favorite traditions you do with your family to honor Christ through the Christmas season?

Won’t you share them with us? Please?

Send an email to me via the “Contact Us” tab up at the top of this page. Let me know! And then check back in to see what others have shared.

Thank you!

ByAngie

Say Goodbye To The Past, Say Hello To Your Legacy

Don't look back!

Some of you may be wondering:

How can I have a legacy that carries on when I have such an un-Godly past behind me? Doesn’t that leave me marred somehow?

We’ve all done things. Some of us more so than others. But then we came to know Jesus, and he washed all of those sins away.

Now that you’re on your new found path, you stress. But why?

Um, maybe because my past is troubling me…

I’ve struggled with this myself before. I used to always worried that I was unworthy or incapable of teaching my children the ways of the Lord because I was not always pure. But there are a few things I want to point out to you that helped me…

No, sin, you're dead. I won't be seeing you anywhere. Adios!

  1. Our sins are forgotten. As if they never happened. Sure, people may remember them, but that is not what matters. God does not. They are gone, washed away. Hallelujah! Your past does NOT impact your future walk with God. Isn’t that wonderful?
  2. How much do you know about your Mom, Grandma, and others? I’m willing to bet that even if they are not walking with God there are plenty of details you have no idea about. And whatever you do, don’t go digging! It’s none of your business!
  3. Look at David: He did SO many sinful things. Too many to list in a short blog post. But go read your Bible and you’ll see. Why does that matter? Well, he succeeded at many things in spite of all his sin. He was the Psalmist. He was a king. He was favored…. He was the ancestor of JESUS! If he can carry on THAT kind of legacy, why can’t you or I?

Nothing in your past has anything to do with the legacy you will pass down unless you allow it to. So stand tall, hold your head high, and teach your children the way they need to be taught. Never hold back or feel insecure. Tell them all about our Father and be confident.

After all, if you’re not confident, why would they want what you have? Be the example!

ByAngie

Passing Your Legacy On With Traditions

The time of year is quickly approaching where we will be in full on Holiday mode. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years are almost here! (I know, you want to slap me for bringing it up…) If you’re like me, you’re already thinking of Christmas crafts or working on them. You may have even started your gift shopping. You’re thinking of all the traditions you’ll be doing with your family…

Our family a month before we found out Molly was on the way...

But what about the rest of the year?

Do you have any traditions that you will pass on to your children that are either holiday related or just done every day? Something that they will say “We always did this when I was a lad, and now I want to do it with my children.” (Sorry, I tried to resist throwing in the word “lad” instead of “kid”, but couldn’t. I’m in a silly mood, sorry.)

Sure, there are the norms: Attending church, Bible reading, Birthday cakes, Christmas pies, Thanksgiving turkeys, and if you celebrate Halloween or Fall Harvest you’ll be attending a party or trick or treating. But I’m talking just… something else. Something that is yours?

This last Summer I read a lot of Homeschool blogs. I found that almost all of them have a party on the last weekend of Summer before school starts. This is one tradition I really want to pick up! Something else our family does is on July 3rd my husband tells our children the story of the Constitution. And then there is our Summer tradition of keeping a “Family Newspaper” of what we have going on in our lives. We also have a “movie” night each week where the kids make movies tickets and snacks and we pretend we’re at a theater.

In the Fall we decorate the house, always intend to visit the Apple orchard and Pumpkin Patch, and begin the countdown to Christmas. I have Summer and Christmas down, but all the other seasons are kind of… blah. This is a goal I want to work on for the sake of my legacy.

What about you? What traditions and celebrations do you have that are yours? Do you think traditions are important? I’d love to know!

ByLona

Becoming a Parent vs. Being a Parent: Yeah, there’s a difference

What a joyous time in one’s life, to welcome a beautiful little baby into the world. To look into their eyes, adoringly, and see all the wonders of the Lord staring right back at you. It’s an indescribable bliss. Then you leave the hospital. The next few weeks are a blur of feedings, changings, bathings, little sleep and thanking the Lord that someone was smart enough to invent the DVR. Sure, it sounds like a lot of hard work (and believe you me, it is) but when you get that first smile, giggle, or hear “Mama” slip out, it’s all worth it.

Some parents get some time off to be with the family, some return to work, and some are blessed enough to be able to stay home with their children. Any way the family functions, the central focus is now the youngest person in the room; baby. It’s an ancient mindset, I know, but I remember someone telling me once that times change, morals do not. (Thanks mom!)

That’s how the story goes, right? Baby makes three and the world makes sense? Ok, fast forward about 50 years, and my how things have changed. These days instead of a bowling league, the scene is the bar. You go, you drink, you pick up your baby from a grandparent the next day or the day after that. Having a baby shouldn’t disallow you to have a social life, right? True, however, your social focus should shift. You should be seeking ways to spend more time as a family, as a complete unit. That’s the way the Lord intended it. Why does our generation spend more time on the stool at the bar than the bench at the park? Or how about the chairs in the sanctuary?

As my first contribution to this blog, I’d like to challenge everyone out there to change one activity next week from a “Me” thing to a “We” thing. Remember that just as you looked to your parents for the example of what parents look, act, and sound like, your children will look to you for the same. Be the example of what you want your children to have. Show them that God gifted them to you, and that you have the greatest appreciation for that gift. Another nugget from my mother – You have two chances at the child-parent relationship. Once as the child, the other as the parent.

May God Bless you!

ByAngie

Living Your Legacy: Walking The Walk And Talking The Talk

It’s really easy to get an idea of what we would LIKE for our legacy to be. Living that legacy, well, that can be another story, right? Just like everything else in parenting, easier said than done.

So how can we set those examples before our children and others?

Well, first of all, we must strive daily to NOT be a “Do as I say, not as I do” parent. Telling our children to live one way while we live another is obviously not the way to achieve a Godly legacy.

Second, if we want our children to grow up and have meaningful relationships we must show them that by our example also. Being a true friend, a loving wife, a good daughter, etc are all ways for them to learn how to interact with others on their own. If we talk trash behind others backs, hold grudges, allow our husbands to put us down or abuse us emotionally or physically, disrespect our husbands, and argue consistently with our families then our children will believe that these actions are acceptable. Plain and simple. When your kids are grown and they shine in their relationships, I guarantee someone is going to say “They must have had a really fantastic mother.” Seriously.

I have to remind myself of these things EVERY day. I am human, and sometimes I have to stop myself and say “Hey! Don’t be a hypocrite! Little eyes are watching you, as are those of others who expect you to be what you say, a Christian. Shape up!”

Thankfully, with diligent prayer and discipline, we can do our best and bring up our children to know the Lord and live his ways… I’m going to try my hardest. Will you?

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6 NKJV

 

ByAngie

Your Legacy: How Will You Be Remembered?

Unfortunately, I don't think I'll ever be able to live this one down. Oh yeah, that's my legacy. Go me!

This question has been on my mind a lot lately. How will my children, grandchildren, friends, and family remember me?

Will I be remembered for making gingerbread every Christmas? Will it be for being a woman who strived her best to be a Godly wife and mother? I’m desperately hoping it’s not for being a procrastinating, scatter brained, unorganized, occasionally crabby person who ONE time made a bad batch of tacos and ever since her husband questioned her every time she suggested them for dinner… Or made anything else new for that matter.

How can we make sure that we are remembered for the good and not the bad?

I would say the best thing we can do is to make the positive in our lives outshine the negative. Live with a positive outlook as much as possible. Let Jesus’ light shine through you. Don’t hold grudges, act bitter, be mean, or easily offended. And while it can be an easy way to handle a delicate situation by being passive aggressive, is that really something we would want to be remembered for?

My Grandparents having my Mom dedicated as an infant

Recently I’ve been trying to take note of my habits. Which ones are great to have, which ones I don’t mind or are not damaging, and which ones I would never want to be remembered for. Then I sat and thought of my Grandparents… Two of the most caring, loving, Godly people I’ve ever known. I remember them for all the funny and wonderful things they did. I remember them for raising their family for Christ. I remember them for loving coffee, Diet Coke, and going out to eat. I remember them for being compassionate and passionate for the work of The Lord. Do I recall them having flaws and being human? Certainly! However, more often I remember them leading us by example in a positive, unique, Godly way.

I have taken it upon myself to be sure that I leave a similar legacy for my own children and grandchildren. Why “similar” and not the exact same you ask? Because it’s MY legacy. Not Dorothy’s. Not Paul Benjamin’s. It’s ANGIE’s legacy. I want to pass down all of those same things, but in my own way with some added flare that says “Angie was here…” Part of that is that I MUST agree to have my photo taken more often. While still. Not on a ride at Disneyland making some dumb face. Ugh… 😉

What about you? How will you be sure that you are passing down what would be good habits for your children and not setting them up for a fall?

 

ByAngie

Where Does My Legacy Begin?

Knowing how to go about being a Godly example that will be kindly remembered is not easy for all. Especially for those who did not have an example set before them as they were being raised. It’s really not a difficult thing to do, but figuring out where to start can be a challenge, as with anything unfamiliar.

My personal advice would be to start praying with your children. Not just for them or quick bedtime, illness, or meal prayers. All of those prayers are important also. However, when you pray with them you are teaching them how to pray and feel comfortable praying in front of others.

Another idea that would be wonderful is to begin a family devotion time. Whether it be daily or weekly, it gives you a chance to sit and discuss the Lord with your children. Think your little ones wouldn’t enjoy? You might just be surprised! There are quite a few options as far as devotional books and Bibles go for kids and families of all ages. Even toddlers!

The obvious suggestion: Attend church and take your children. This will give them a good habit to have when they’re older. “Sunday means church time” will be instilled in their hearts and minds.

I know all of these things seem so simple, but they really do make a world of difference!

How about you? Is there anything you’re doing to help create your legacy? I’d love to hear about it!