Category Archive Supermom Syndrome

ByAngie

Rest… It’s Not An Option (With Link-up!)

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As moms, do we ever really rest?

Honestly?

Between dishes, meals, laundry, getting the kids to school or sitting them down to do homeschool lessons, jobs, doctor’s appointments, church functions, sports, piano lessons, book club, and everything else that we may or may not do, life gets really busy. To add to it, society makes us feel that if we rest, we are lazy. As a result, if we take some time to actually truly rest, we feel guilty. Anyone remember that McDonald’s commercial from a few months ago with the two moms arguing over who was busier? My point exactly.

Exodus 34:21 (NKJV)  says, “Six days you shall work, but on the seventh day you shall rest; in plowing time and in harvest you shall rest.”

As always, God’s way is better. He created us, so He knows our bodies, hearts, and minds need a time to unwind. Not just for the sake of our flesh, but our spirits as well. Not just when life is busy, but when times are calm too, “in plowing time and in harvest.”

When our hearts and minds are able to slow down and find peace, the focus turns to God. Our souls are fed and find nourishment. We spend time pondering on Him, attending church, reading the Word, and praying the way we should. With more rest, our stress levels lower and our health improves. Our families follow our examples and good habits are formed.

I’ll be the first to admit that I am guilty of not resting the way I should. Sometimes my idea of “rest” is not putting God’s word into action. All He asks for is one day a week. It’s not really too much, is it, considering all that He has given for us?

Will you join me, and rest in Him every Sunday?

 

A Look at The Book

 

Now, ready for some fun?

Here is the “A Group Look Link Up” I told you all about earlier in the week! These are some great ladies, so be sure to head over to their blogs and get acquainted. Can you believe how patient they were with me with that unexpected 5 week trip? Sweet girls!

 

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Our Host, Ren & The Ladies at A Look At The Book
Fellow Co-Host, Bethany at Graceful Country Diva
Fellow Co-Host, Mandy at Women of Worship

 


ByJennifer A. Janes

You’ve Got To Slow Down! 6 Tips For The Busy Mom To Find Rest…

After going at breakneck speed since having my first child 10 ½ years ago, I’m finally slowing down. The trouble is, my body has been giving me warning signs for several years, and God has been leading me to take it easy (Psalm 127:2), but I have failed to heed the warnings… until now.

Starting The Year Off Right

Now I’m taking the warning signs seriously, and I’m praying it’s not too late. My body is showing signs that something autoimmune is cranking up. It’s not so bad that it can’t be reversed at this point, so I’m making every effort to do exactly what I need to do to make that happen—with God’s help.

I think I am in this situation is because I failed to heed my body’s warning signs: having mono three years in a row (and exhibiting symptoms when I get run down and exhausted), Raynaud’s phenomenon, weight loss despite eating plenty of calories, unrelenting fatigue, joint pain, and a nasty episode of swollen, feverish, painful joints last summer. The root cause? Pushing myself beyond reasonable limits day after day, year after year, and not listening to my body.

Just say NO to being BUSY! Say YES to REST! - Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven

Unfortunately, I don’t think I’m the only mom facing this. We’re exhausted, burned out, and sick. It shouldn’t be this way, and God doesn’t intend for us to live like this. We’re trying to do too much, and we’re not doing anything well.

So what do we do? We have responsibilities, husbands and children who are counting on us, laundry and dishes to keep up with, homeschooling (or homework) to help with. Jesus said to come away and rest. (Mark 6:31) Just thinking “rest” to myself causes something strange to happen in my body. The muscles in my forehead relax. My shoulders release from the hunched position. My jaw unclenches. And I wasn’t aware that any of those things were happening until they were gone.

 

You've Got To Slow Down - Jennifer Janes - Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven

 

Jesus said to rest, and it’s obvious we have a physical response to the word, but how do we do that?

 

  • Cut back. Look at your calendar and schedule. Prioritize everything on it. Anything you’re doing because you feel like you should or think you need to do so people will like you or because if you don’t no one else will needs to be eliminated from your list. (Thanks for that tip, Tricia Goyer!) Only do things that are necessary to care for your family and that fulfill God’s call on your life—your true passions.

  • Ask for help. Assign chores to your children. Even the youngest ones can be taught to do chores that will lighten your load. Let go of the idea that everything must be done perfectly, and resist the urge to go behind them and redo the tasks you assigned them. They will learn to do those tasks better with practice. When a friend asks if she can stop by and help, say yes!

  • Say no. Don’t say yes to everything people ask you to do. Remember those priorities and your calling and purpose? If it doesn’t fit in one of those categories, say no. (This is much harder than you think it’s going to be, especially if you’re a people pleaser by nature. It takes practice, and you will slip up at first. Give yourself grace and don’t beat yourself up too much.)

  • Make time for yourself. What do you really enjoy doing? What energizes you like no other activity or brings you pleasure that allows you to go back to the mundane tasks of your day with joy? Is it reading a great Christian fiction book? Knitting, crocheting, sewing, painting, writing, or some other creative endeavor? Spending a couple of hours at a coffee shop with a friend? Whatever your “me-time” is, schedule it into your week. There’s nothing wrong with making some time for yourself after you’ve gotten your quiet time and exercise in.

  • Exercise. Yes, I went there. As hard as it is to get started, you’re going to thank me later. Exercise will give you energy, help you sleep better, and help you feel better about yourself.

  • Time with God.  This is last on the list, but it should be first in planning your days. Get up a little early to spend precious time in the Word and prayer. You will feel rest in your spirit far into your day and will be better prepared to face whatever your day brings.

 

What are your favorite tips for slowing down and making sure you’re taking care of yourself —body, mind, and spirit?
ByAngie

Review: Putting On The Spirit: Ten-Minute Devotions For Busy Moms

This post contains affiliate links.

Unless this is your first time here, you know I’m a busy mom. You see it in my Facebook statuses, Tweets, & frequently here on the blog as, well, the whole theme of Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven is about making time for God in the midst of being a busy mom.

Putting on the Spirit: Ten-Minute Devotions for Busy MomsSo it comes as no surprise that I’m excited to share my review of this book with you all today. Putting On the Spirit: Ten-Minute Devotions for Busy Moms, just released this week, is one of my most favorite devotional books yet.

Katie Hornor

Author Katie Hornor of Paradise Praises put together this study for moms like you and me. The mothers who have little time to catch a breath, let alone find time to spend in the Word. For the moms whose time is valuable and cannot be wasted by reading something that isn’t just right. The ones who sometimes have to read quickly while in the doctor’s waiting room, a few minutes before the family wakes, or maybe even in the bathroom with the door locked. She knew what we needed, because she is a busy mom herself. Most of all, she let the Lord speak through her and that is what makes this book so amazing.

Putting On the Spirit: Ten-Minute Devotions for Busy Moms

Each day’s reading takes about 10 minutes, just as the title says. Along with the workbook that is available for free to download, you will realize what the Bible says about the Fruits of The Spirit mentioned in Galatians while doing some soul searching. While going through Putting On the Spirit: Ten-Minute Devotions for Busy Moms I had so many “Aha!” moments that I did not anticipate. Without being preachy, Katie teaches us how to put on the whole spirit in our day to day lives by being down to earth and speaking the truth. I couldn’t wait to read each day and even found myself crying tears of joy some of those days. Quick, meaty, encouraging, and a blessing. Exactly what I needed!

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This week only Putting On the Spirit: Ten-minute Devotions for Busy Moms is available for 99 cents! The book’s forward is by Heidi St. John and is also available in Spanish. I can’t recommend it enough! I even plan to go through it again each time my children study the fruits of the spirit in homeschool. It’s that good!

 

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ByAngie

Review: Chaos…Simplified The Womans {life} Planner

As promised a few days ago, I am bringing you some tips and ways that I have managed to “survive” the last year of extreme chaos in our lives. Unfortunately, our website has been acting a little finicky so that I haven’t been able to post ANYTHING the last few days. FINALLY today I’m able to get on here. What a relief! So without further ado, I am sharing the biggest help to my life recently.

Chao...Simplified

For the last few months, I have had the pleasure of looking over and using The Womans {life} Planner by Chaos… Simplified. The name of this product is truly a perfect fit for how it has affected my life! I could literally talk about what a wonderful tool this product is non-stop. Just ask my family that I’m spending the weekend with in Palm Springs right now on a Mother/Daughter retreat… They might have said, “Okay, we get it. Just order us some already…”

In my life I have used SO many planners and organizers. I’ve tried making my own to fit my life. I’ve spent big bucks on electronic gadgets and books. I’ve even tried the whole white board organization system. I am honest in admitting to anyone I have a real problem with time management, remembering tasks, and staying on top of general organization of what needs to be done when. Disarray, people. That is my life without some sort of system in place.

Chaos… Simplified, the brain child of Corri L. Bitner, has taken the chore of keeping it all together out of the equation. With The Womans {life} Planner, in one easy to carry binder that easily fits in a average sized purse, you have everything a busy Mom on the go might need. Actually, I need to clarify: Almost everything. As my Mom pointed out, it does not have a cup holder. Other than that, it’s all there.

The Womans {life} planner is technically two products in one. It begins with The Womans {week by week} Planner.

The Womans {week by week} Planner is a spiral bound week by week formatted calendar and organizer. When you first open it up, there are a few pages of scripture, encouragement, and suggestions from the author along with some snippets of articles that she feels are helpful. Reading these pages I found myself nodding my head in agreement and quickly circling and underlining every part that I particularly liked. Without giving anything away, let’s just say that I’ve changed my thoughts on being hospitable… This system has truly changed my life in ways I never imagined, and this area is one of them.

Chaos... SimplifiedIn addition, there are sections to jot down birthdays, a 5 year plan for events and goals, go to meals, cleaning agenda, (LOVE this!), holiday planning, wish list, budgeting, websites & passwords, important numbers, and addresses.

Each day of the weekly calendar is broken down into today’s top 3 priorities followed by an area to write down lists and plans for the day. THIS has been my saving grace! I can write the 3 things that MUST be done that day at the top where they are easily seen and not forgotten. There is also a little area for tracking how much water you are drinking every day, with 8 droplets of water at top under today’s priorities for you to check off as you drink throughout the day. Each week also has a section for things to do, phone calls to make, and notes. Again, all things that I needed to keep track of. Having it all in one place and at a glance has truly made my life much easier.

The Womans {life} Planner is the binder that holds it all. Containing 5 note pads, The Womans {week by week} Planner, and an area to attach a pen, everything is kept together so neatly that you can open it anywhere and quickly close it to take it with you on the go. The note pads are:

  • The art of juggling – This is probably my favorite of the note pads. It has grids for personal, household, financial, family, and work to do lists. I LOVE having it all right there to see all together.
  • Today’s most important tasks – A self-explained note pad to write down your list and tear it away.
  • My dreams & doodles – I use this note pad to write down all the things that I want to sew, make, and do.
  • What’s cookin’ baby? – A month at a glance menu plan. LOVE
  • Gotta pick it up – A shopping list that is large enough to contain a good sized amount of groceries.

I can’t say enough great things about this product. I went from being scattered and unable to keep everything contained to being able to control the chaos in my life more than I have in a long time. I never leave the house without it, always finding myself pulling it out to write down notes, reminders, and memories.

One other fun little thing about this system: The quotes and scriptures throughout The Womans {week by week} Planner. There have been a few times I was feeling down or stressed and the little reading on the page I was on gave me encouragement and a little pick me up.

I highly recommend this planner and organizer to anyone who has a tough time keeping it all together, especially new moms. Oh how I wish I had this when my babies were new to track feedings and diaper changes. It would have made life a whole lot easier, let me tell you!

Click here to visit Chaos…Simplified and order a planner of your own! The Womans {week by week} planner is regularly $19.95 and The Womans {life} planner is regularly $59.95. Both are on sale right now though! And for readers of Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven, Chaos…Simplified is offering FREE SHIPPING using the promo code: “freeship”!

Thank you, Chaos…Simplified! Thank you thank you thank you THANK YOU! Not only for allowing me to do this review, but also for literally simplifying the chaos in my life. I cannot stress how much this planner has positively changed my life.

ChaosSimplified

ByAngie

C is for Chaos

cha·os [key-os] noun
1. a state of utter confusion or disorder; a total lack of organization or order.
2. any confused, disorderly mass: a chaos of meaningless phrases.
3. the infinity of space or formless matter supposed to have preceded the existence of the ordered universe.
4. ( initial capital letter ) the personification of this in any of several ancient Greek myths.
5. Obsolete . a chasm or abyss.

 

 

I can't get enough of this picture of Tommy... This kid cracks me up!

I can’t get enough of this picture of Tommy… This kid cracks me up!

It’s been one of those weeks years.

Some people have busy days. We’ve had a year full of chaos. By chaos, I don’t mean that it’s all bad. I just mean that it’s more than busy. Waaaay more than busy. You know, that whole “utter confusion or disorder and total lack of organization” thing listed at the top? Yeah. That.

I had surgery. Both of my parents took turns having a couple of surgeries each. My Mom faced stage 4 colon cancer & chemo and beat it on the head. There’s been all kinds of health issues for every family member. Running here, dodging there, hosting parties, holidays… add in all the normal stuff, and way too many things are getting over looked or completely forgotten.

This last month has probably brought the most chaos of all. Every time I thought “Okay, tomorrow we’ll get back on track” the next day would bring something new to face head on. We’ve had 4 separate illnesses go through our house in the last month. FOUR! How? I don’t know. Well, I do know 2 of them were from friends who were sick. But the others? No idea how we even contracted them.

Becoming overwhelmed was way too easy. Sometimes it was easy to forget what was important. But you know what? We’ve survived, we’ve thrived, and we’ve learned how to stand together against anything.

Most of all, I’ve grown to depend on Jesus more and more through it all.

Thankfully, I’ve learned some new ways to manage and organize some of the craziness. The rest of this week I’ll be sharing some of those tools and tricks I’ve picked up along this interesting journey. I in no way claim to have it all together, and were you to show up at my home unexpectedly, you would clearly see that. There are still some areas of my life I haven’t even begun to figure out how to reign in. I have, however, learned to control the majority of it all and keep my head together.

So, this is C is for Chaos week instead of day. How’s that for blogging through the alphabet? 😉

If you’re following Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven on Facebook, you may have seen my status yesterday about praising God in spite of my day. (Kind of the point of this whole blog, isn’t it?) I shared a little chorus that I’ve had on my heart the last few days. In the closing of this post today, I’d like to share it again, as it is truly the song of my heart right now. (I hate to post lyrics without writer’s credits, but I can’t find them. If you know who wrote this song, please let me know so I can credit them…)

Wherever I am I’ll praise him, Whenever I can I’ll praise him; For his love surrounds me like the sea, I’ll praise the name of Jesus, lift up the name of Jesus; For the name of Jesus lifted me.

 

 Be sure to head over to Ben and Me to see all the other Blogging through the Alphabet posts!

Blogging Through the Alphabet
(And yes, I know I missed the letter B. Like I said, it’s been chaotic. I was going to write about birthdays, so below are some photos from the 2 birthday parties we hosted in the last month. The first was my Dad’s 60th surprise birthday party. I had so much fun planning and hosting this party! The second was Tommy’s 5th birthday party with a Star Wars theme. It was fun too, but let’s just say hosting 2 parties in less than 2 weeks wore me out! Once again… Chaos… Haha!)

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ByAngie

Truly, There Is Hope For The Weary Mom (A Book Review)

On March 15th, 2001 I became a Mom. My heart was changed the second that little boy looked up at me, just delivered and on his way to my arms, and screamed as loud as he could. I brought him to my chest and instantly cried “Thank You, Jesus!” I thought it would all flow naturally from there. I imagined a life full of daily joys and never feeling down because of this new found love.

Boy, was I in for a shock!

I had dreamed of being a mother my entire life, and while I knew some mothers became stressed from time to time, I had NO idea that this wonderful calling of motherhood could become so draining at times. I believe it was only a few weeks later that I held my very unhappy gassy little guy who just couldn’t find relief from the knot in his stomach. My house was a disaster. (Or so I thought. I later found out that homes could become MUCH messier when a toddler (or 3) is afoot!) I hadn’t showered. I hadn’t eaten. And I could not help my little man to stop crying. I felt like a failure, and oh how very weary I was. If only this book was available then!

We’ve all been there as mothers, have we not? Weary? But yet, no one ever wants to talk about it. To admit our shortcomings and ability to be brought down to shambles is humiliating. We fear others will think less of us, and hold it inside. We become so tired and discouraged, that even while we are crying out to the Lord, we feel alone.

Brooke and Stacey do an incredible job addressing these issues in the new expanded edition of Hope for the Weary Mom. They share their struggles, confess that it is a daily battle, and offer scriptures of hope to remember during those oh so very weary moments. They help other moms to realize it is OKAY to admit that we aren’t at all perfect and have bad days. To be honest, I cried and laughed through the entire book. It’s just that good.

Encouragement is given! Humbling confessions are shared to show you are not alone! A promise of hope through the Bible and prayer! I truly believe this book was inspired to these women by God to minister to every mother that is willing to read it.

 

I could list more examples and quotes, but the bottom line here is that this book is EXACTLY what the title says. It is Hope for the Weary Mom.

Does this book seem like something that would bless you? It can be found on Amazon for both Kindle and as a paperback. Also, because I truly believe this book is worth sharing, there will be a giveaway of the PDF format version for one reader. Just leave a comment and you’ll be entered!

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ByAngie

Um, God? This Isn’t What I Had Planned…

My 10th birthday, clockwise from top: Me, thinking I'm soooo cool with my dumb arm up; Crystal; Kristeena; Kristianna WAY into her mexican lime salt; Kyndra, taken off guard; & Kara, always happy and giggly.

As a child, my friends (that are all more like family) and I would often play house. Crystal would have either 1 or 2 kids. Kristeena would be the babysitter. Kristianna would be the family pet… usually a dog. (I’m happy to report now that she is NOT a dog, but a happy wife and mother of a beautiful baby girl…) Me? I was the crazy one who wanted to pretend I had 6-10 kids. Most often, Crystal would say “That’s crazy. No more than 6. We can’t keep up with all the pretend names.” And boy, would I come up with those names. Every time there was a “Rebecca-Ann Marie” (And if you know me well enough, you know my first daughter had a very similar name.) and I LOVED playing the part.

My "Beccarie", at the "Sweet" age of 2. My angel. She's now 9 and sweeter than ever.

Nick, Kyndra, & Kara always played along. Nick would be “Uncle Michael” and his wife would always be “Aunt Michele”. Kyndra would usually be one of Crystal’s kids, but sometimes mine… and Kara was mine every time. Being that Kara was half my age at the time and quite a bit smaller than I, I loved that I could carry her around on my hip or to cradle her in my arms. She was always 5 months old and had a different name every game session. Don’t ask me why 5 months and not 6 or 4. It’s just how it was.

This was my plan. From a young girl. I was to be a Mommy of a VERY large group of children. And I am… but not as many as I thought I would have…

I’m facing a difficult decision due to physical problems; It involves my fertility.

I always said that when God said it was time to stop having children, he would tell me loud and clear. That he has. I believe soon I may be undergoing a hysterectomy or treatment that will prevent me from having more children.

One of those rare moments they all sat still... enough...

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I have a large family and I’ve been blessed. It’s just not what I had planned.

Saturday night, dealing with a hot flash, I stepped outside. Looking at the stars, I flat out asked God, “What is your plan? I’m open to what you have, it’s just this is what I thought you called me to do? I’m only 30. I didn’t expect this so soon.”  In my heart I felt him say, instantly, “It is what I called you to do, but there is something else waiting in the wings. Just wait and see. It will take time. Hold on.”

So here I am: At peace, finally. At the end of my life I may not have 6-10 children, and that’s okay. This wasn’t an easy thing to let go of, as I’m a “planner”. But, the 5 I have are the best things that EVER happened to me. God knows what He’s doing, all the time.  I’ll trust in Him.

Are you facing a situation in which you are not sure what God is up to? Has the decision been taken out of your hands? Let me tell you, friend, give it all to Him. He really does know what He’s doing. If you need prayer, let us know either here or on our Prayer Wall. We’ll pray with you.

 

 

 

 

To fully understand the reason why Angie picked this song, please visit Random Epiphanies of An Imperfectionist and click on Sunday, April 22nd’s post. Thank you.

ByAngie

Making Changes

Lately I’ve been reading (when I’m able to find time) The Good Wife’s Guide by Darlene Schacht who blogs over at Time-Warp Wife. (Expect a review from Emily or myself soon!) For some time I’ve wanted to make a lot of changes in my day to day life that she points out in this book, but haven’t done it. Why? Probably because of 2 things. 1, I’m lazy. 2, I HATE change.

2 months ago we moved into our home. We’re still not fully unpacked. Homeschool still hasn’t resumed. (We will be resuming Monday though, come hell or high water!) And life is just still in a transitional phase that I’m flat out sick of.

To say I’m overwhelmed would be an understatement.

One of the things that Darlene mentions in her book is to force yourself to go to bed early and rise early in order to get more done… even if you’re a night owl. DING DING DING! That’s me! I need to do that!

I can’t imagine what all I would be able to do if I were to get out of bed 2 hours before my kids. The cleaning, the lesson planning, breakfast ready… but most importantly quiet time with the Lord before I start the day.

Starting tonight, I’m going to bed early. I’m not excited about it, but it has to be done. I’m going to get out of bed before the kids in the morning and see how much I can do. I’ll post tomorrow how it went. Pray that it works!

Have you ever had to make a change you weren’t fond of for the sake of your family routine? Share with us!

ByAngie

Can It Wait?

13 Come now, you who say, Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit;14 whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.15 Instead you ought to say, If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.

James 4:13-15

Within the last few weeks I’ve known quite a few people who have had loved ones pass away. Time slipped away so quickly. Some were old aged, but some were not. At the same time, I’ve had a few close friends that have been diagnosed with serious conditions.

All of this is brought many things to light for me. For one: Death knows no age. I’ve known this for years, but it seems every few years something happens to remind me that no one is exempt. As James said, life is but a vapor and we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Second: What are my priorities and what am I putting first?

Lately I’ve been TOO busy. My pastor noticed this before I did. She asked me one evening, “Do you ever say no?” “No” I replied, and we giggled. Don’t get me wrong, I love doing things for others and helping them. I am in no way complaining nor will I stop doing this. But sometimes, I need to just stop and focus on my family. I realized this a few weeks ago after my two year old son came running up to me with his arms out for me to hold him. “Just a second chubby cherub. Mommy is really busy.” Suddenly, like a slap in the face, a still small voice inside of me said “Busy doing what?” Hmm… Nothing is as important to me as my children. What could I possibly be doing that is keeping me too busy? Then the second slap to the other side of my metaphorical face “I’m doing this to God, too.” Ouch.

When life is over, will I be remembered for the fact that I made aprons? No. If I actually got my house to look perfect and kept it that way, will I feel achieved in Heaven? Not at all. When it’s all said and done, all that matters is that I served an almighty God and raised children with integrity who knew without a doubt their mother loved them and would drop anything for them in their time of need.

I’m not saying that any of us should let our homes go, stop doing things for others, sit back and let life fall apart just to snuggle with the kids a little longer. But by all means, stop and smell the roses! Enjoy those babies while they’re young! Play a board game with the older kids. Make your husband’s favorite meal just because. Plan a date night beyond his expectations and show him you love him. And if today’s to do list doesn’t get done, don’t sweat it. Trust me, it’ll be there tomorrow.

A special thank you to my dear friend, Rena, for her inspiration in writing this post.

ByAngie

Sticky Hands: Disciplining Mom

DISCIPLINE

2 obsolete:instruction
3: a field of study
4: training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character
5 a: control gained by enforcing obedience or order b: orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior c:self-control
6: a rule or system of rules governing conduct or activity
Yesterday, I took a Facebook survey of my friends to see what was the first word that came to their mind when they heard the word “Discipline“. Jimmy said “Marine“, which I found honorable. Kathleen said “Behaved” which I loved. Kara joked around and mentioned spanking, but said in all seriousness “Teach“. Love that one too! Susie brought up “Consequence“, which is something it seems we all seem to forget about sometimes before we do something, so I really enjoyed this one too. Our very own Emily came back with “Being in order and in line with how you know you’re supposed to be” Wow, huh? When I asked my “Sis” Michele she stated “Inner Strength“. Great one! My buddy Keith said “Focus“, which is so true, isn’t it? Christi said “Correction“, and honestly, I was surprised we got this far down the list without it. Not because it was what I was looking for, but because many associate those to words. Tasha made a good point with “Chaos … I know .. weird, but I guess because if you don’t discipline you have chaos.” She got that one right, didn’t she? Kelli stated “Parents“. Kristianna replied “Consistent“, Dawn “In Order“, and Robin “Biblical“. I love them all! Especially Jessica’s interpretation with “Love“…
What does the above word make you think of? Probably your children, right? We want them to grow up to be wise, well mannered, and well liked so we correct them and mold them all the while praying that God guide us and use us for His good as we raise the next generation.
But what about you, Mom? Who keeps you in line? Who molds you? Who corrects you? Who teaches you? What training has brought you to a place of self control and structure? A Mom without discipline herself would have a very difficult time disciplining her children, would she not? And think about it, how can you be a disciple without discipline?
I know, you want to say “Um, duh Angie. I control myself and with the help of The Lord I do all the others…” Yeah, okay, I know you know this stuff. But I mean I want you to stop and think REALLY hard about this. Read those questions again, one at a time, and ponder them for a moment.
  • Who keeps you in line? Is it you, your pastor, your spouse, and most importantly the Lord? Maybe with a little help from friends & family? If so, good!
  • Now, who molds you? Is it God and God alone? Sure we can be influenced by others, but I am talking about molding you. There was a time that my friends molded me, the ways of celebrities and what I thought I should be instead of what God wanted me to be were how I was molded. Obviously, I had a lot of cracks and was very oddly shaped. (Not claiming to be perfect now, still a few defects there…)
  • Who is correcting and teaching you? A few months ago during the Summer, I woke up one morning and God started dealing with me to change some things in my life. The conviction was so strong that I had to stop doing the morning dishes and just cry, which lead to a lot of prayer. It was as if He had taken a switch to my backside and I instantly realized my wrong doing and WHY it was wrong when I didn’t even see it before. You’d think I’d be angry, but no, I was more in love with my Savior than before. I was so glad that I finally let HIM correct me instead of the world. So refreshing!
  • What training have you received? Well, as Christians we read our Bibles, listen to sermons, and read books penned by anointed hands. All of these used as a combination are a great way to learn to walk the straight and narrow.
Discipline from God is a key part in living in His will. As my husband says, “You shouldn’t have the intestinal fortitude of licorice.” When we stand strong, firm, practicing self-control and willing to accept His correction we find that the path, while straight and narrow, becomes a lot clearer to see.
Now, PLEASE, share your answers if you are willing. Let us all encourage each other and lift one another up!
1 Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge, But he who hates correction is stupid.2 A good man obtains favor from the Lord, But a man of wicked intentions He will condemn.3 A man is not established by wickedness, But the root of the righteous cannot be moved. Proverbs 12:1-3 NKJV