Keeping Them Young – Part 1

ByAngie

Keeping Them Young – Part 1

Messes. Oh, how I hate messes! God showed his sense of humor and gave me 5 children, 3 of which are boys that love to make messes. It’s a constant battle with myself to just let them be kids and make messes.

For example, last week my 3 year old decided his snack should no longer be food, but a toy instead. Normally, I wouldn’t allow this. Food is NOT to be played with! But I thought, eh, what could it hurt? Just this one time?

An hour later my son was still sitting there, crumbs everywhere, pretending that his trains were covered in snow. He was so quiet, so intent, and exercising his imagination. Tension has been high in our home the last few months as my husband is buying us a house. It was almost as if this “mess” broke the tension for my son and I, allowing us to just relax.

After about 2 hours, (Yes! He played quietly and alone for TWO whole hours!) he sweetly asked if he could clean up and then helped me vacuum up the dreaded mess. The mess that turned out to not be so bad. The mess that taught me, “Hey, lighten up! This little boy won’t be a little boy forever and you’ll regret not being messy all the time, not just occasionally.” It was gone in less than 2 minutes and Tommy has not once asked to make a mess of crumbs again.

Children should be allowed to play. They need dirt, paint, mud, play doh, and all kinds of other messes to learn. Think of all the stuff our generation did as children. Since when were kids supposed to be kept in a bubble? It seems so often these days children are made to grow up so fast. Childhood should be long and drawn out, but in general it’s just not that way anymore. Kids are dealing with grown up problems at young ages. Kept on strict schedules and have too many activities. They’re expected to spend many long hours on homework instead of being outside. They’ve become lazy, entitled, and picky. Even babyhood has been shortened. They are NO LONGER kids, but short unprepared adults. There isn’t even time to train them up in the way they should go because so much time is focused on perfecting their behavior instead of growing their spirit.

Obviously, I’m preaching to myself here. But, does anyone else feel this way?

To be continued…

 

About the author

Angie editor

Angie, a mother of 5, currently lives in the Inland Empire area of Southern California with her husband of 19 years, Bobby, & 4 of their children. She is a non-custodial mother of 1 that lives with her during the Summer. Angie is a stay at home mom, homeschooling all 3 of her younger children. (She plans to homeschool her children through high school graduation.) She'll be the first to admit she is human & full of flaws. Every day she praises God for His grace & mercy on her life. She's lived in 5 different states, loves to craft & sew, and is what you would call a "Disney Geek" since birth. Dreaming of one day returning to school, her free time is spent studying and attempting to play piano. If you have any questions or for any other reason need to contact someone about this blog, she is the one to contact. You can email her at Angie (at) RaisingStickyHands (dot) com.