I don’t like New Year’s resolutions very much. For me, they usually end in failure. Then I compare myself to my Facebook and Twitter friends who seem to be rocking theirs, and I feel even worse. I think I’ve figured out what’s wrong with my resolutions: they all focus on less.
In the past, my resolutions have been something like this:
- This year, I will work on weighing less.
- I will spend less this year.
- I will eat less (in general) and less sugar, chips, etc. (in particular).
- I will spend less time on social media.
- I will compare myself to others less. (Okay, maybe that’s one to keep.)
- I will watch less TV.
Instead of all the focus on what I shouldn’t be doing, what if I decided to make resolutions that focused on more?
- This year, I will spend more time reading books that feed my soul.
- I will spend more time playing with and enjoying my kids this year.
- I will spend more time being thankful for what I have instead of spending money on things that leave me—and my bank account—empty.
- I will be more attentive to my husband and children when they talk to me.
- I will connect with friends and family more (phone calls and letters, not texts and social media).
- I will take care of myself: get more sleep, make wise choices in what I eat, watch, and read, and do things that feed my need to be creative (crochet, sew, write, paint).
When I look at those two lists, I definitely prefer the second one. Who doesn’t want more instead of less? But what’s even more important than how we phrase our resolutions or goals, or choose one word for the year, is that we spend time with God, reading His Word, praying, and asking Him what His plans are for us for 2015. If we fail to do this first, then all of our plans for the new year are bound to fail.
Despite feeling like we have to do so much on our own, we’re really not in this mothering thing alone. God is with us every step of the way, and He has great plans for us and for our children. We just need to stay close to Him, seeking Him every step of the way and letting Him help us through each day of 2015, and every day after that.