Tag Archive Parenting

ByEmily

Schedule Madness!

Can you believe it’s time for Thanksgiving and this school year is almost halfway over? Christmas is next month! Where has the time gone? Better yet, with all my running around, what do I have to show for it? Why do we always seem to have such crazy schedules?

Let’s talk about my kids…One is in second grade. One is in kindergarten. One is taking dance class, one just started piano lessons. That’s just the kids. And this doesn’t count the church events on our calendar, doctor’s appointments, et c. That’s right–sometimes I just want to grab a Kit Kat and scream, “GIVE ME A BREAK!” Not really. I’d rather have a Reese’s. 😉

When school starts, much more comes along with it. Sports, clubs, extracurricular activities, etc. Then the holidays hit. It’s easy for our lives to become overwhelmed and chaotic. I’m a little stressed out just thinking about all of it! But sometimes in the midst of the madness, I have to sit back and take a deep breath. I have to remember that God blessed me with my two beautiful girls. He has entrusted them into my care. It is important that I do my best to keep my focus on Him. First and foremost, before dance and birthday parties and holiday dinners and everything else, it is my job to point them to God. If I don’t make time for Him in my life, I can’t expect my girls to make time for God in their lives. If I don’t read and study my Bible, I can’t expect Naomi and Adah to memorize their memory verses.

proverbs 22 6

We can’t let our crazy schedules dictate our relationships with God. And we can’t use our crazy schedules as an excuse to slack in our parenting. Yes, things may become overwhelming and chaotic, but if we keep God first then we can be assured that He has everything under control.

I think Darlene from Time-Warp Wife sums it best:

 

ByKaren

Not My Child?

Oh. My. Gosh. I get so tired of parents being, or pretending to be, so naive about the lives that their child/pre-teen/teens, are living. The bottom line is, that these kids are SNEAKY and know exactly how to play the deception card.

As a substitute teacher in a public school system, I see and hear a lot of what is going on with these guys. I also have a 13 year old daughter who tells me almost everything.

I am not the kind of mother that pretends that my children are angels at all times. Especially when I am not with them. I know the “lying face” of each of my four children. I know the temptations that they face in this world. How other children get away with everything and make it look like there are no consequences to their bad behavior.

Kids today know more about sexual immorality than I knew when I got married. They have no shame. My daughter has classmates who are already “giving” themselves away, though they are in junior high. They strive for the attention that it brings.

The young ladies go to school with their eyes painted up so heavy that they look like aged women rather than beautiful, young girls. I have nothing against make up and hair color, I love them both myself, but when these girls look so un-natural, and hide their natural beauty, it’s just too much.

The boys are so perverted and vulgar, and they laugh it up with each other like it’s their normal, everyday life. The boys and girls, both, will lie right to your face and try to make you believe every word they are saying. I won’t even start on these parties that they are having and what they are doing at sleepovers. Shock and Awe People!

A sad thing about these children, is that they all “go” to church, but I don’t know what they are doing there. They have had to have been taught the difference between right and wrong, and what is acceptable, morally, through the eyes of God, during some time in their “walk”.

It literally breaks my heart to see the direction that their lives are taking. To be so blinded and deceived by the enemy, in believing that their lives are indispensable. There is no set age of accountability. They are living dangerously on the edge of eternity.

So, as a mother, I know what my children are capable of, and some of the things that they are tempted with. I make it my duty and my business to know where they are at ALL times, what they are doing, and who they are going to be with. I remind them, daily, that God has set a standard for them to uphold. That I can’t be with them at all times, therefore, they are responsible for their behavior.

Please parents, wake up and talk to your child about what is going on in their lives. Give them a chance to talk, but watch out for condemning them. That may shut down their freedom of communication to you. But I’ll forewarn you, you may be surprised what you find out.

ByKaren

When I Grow Up…

Parents have a tendency to push their children in after school activities, sports, or try to live their lives through their children. I know parents who make their children play sports when they hate the sport that they play.

Recently, my oldest daughter was made fun of at school for being in band. She plays basketball for our middle school because she wants to, but she loves playing the flute and hopes eventually to start the piccolo. She loves band. My oldest son loves music and is now pursuing the bass guitar and the tuba.

I have found that it is the other sports children, who tend to make fun of the “band geeks”. But think about it. How likely is it that these kids will go on to a college sport? There is even LESS likely of a chance that any of them will play anything on a professional level. Even the small percentage that ever make it pro, usually have to retire at a young age due to their body being wore out.

Now, think about musical abilities. When you learn to play a musical instrument, it goes with you for the rest of your life and can bring your heart joy when you play. Most people never make it big in the music industry, but you can carry it with you forever.

So, if your child is doing an extra curricular activity, please make sure that it’s something that they enjoy doing and teach them not to put down others for their choice of activities. Your child will be better all the way around if they have the opportunity to cooperate instead of being forced.

ByLona

Becoming a Parent vs. Being a Parent: Yeah, there’s a difference

What a joyous time in one’s life, to welcome a beautiful little baby into the world. To look into their eyes, adoringly, and see all the wonders of the Lord staring right back at you. It’s an indescribable bliss. Then you leave the hospital. The next few weeks are a blur of feedings, changings, bathings, little sleep and thanking the Lord that someone was smart enough to invent the DVR. Sure, it sounds like a lot of hard work (and believe you me, it is) but when you get that first smile, giggle, or hear “Mama” slip out, it’s all worth it.

Some parents get some time off to be with the family, some return to work, and some are blessed enough to be able to stay home with their children. Any way the family functions, the central focus is now the youngest person in the room; baby. It’s an ancient mindset, I know, but I remember someone telling me once that times change, morals do not. (Thanks mom!)

That’s how the story goes, right? Baby makes three and the world makes sense? Ok, fast forward about 50 years, and my how things have changed. These days instead of a bowling league, the scene is the bar. You go, you drink, you pick up your baby from a grandparent the next day or the day after that. Having a baby shouldn’t disallow you to have a social life, right? True, however, your social focus should shift. You should be seeking ways to spend more time as a family, as a complete unit. That’s the way the Lord intended it. Why does our generation spend more time on the stool at the bar than the bench at the park? Or how about the chairs in the sanctuary?

As my first contribution to this blog, I’d like to challenge everyone out there to change one activity next week from a “Me” thing to a “We” thing. Remember that just as you looked to your parents for the example of what parents look, act, and sound like, your children will look to you for the same. Be the example of what you want your children to have. Show them that God gifted them to you, and that you have the greatest appreciation for that gift. Another nugget from my mother – You have two chances at the child-parent relationship. Once as the child, the other as the parent.

May God Bless you!