Tag Archive Self Control

ByEmily

ONE WORD 2015 (And a 2014 Update)

My One Word 2014 was “Fruit”. What I love about having a One Word for the year is that it doesn’t go away when that year is over. Once you’ve spent a year focusing on that word and why you picked it, it’s bound to stay with you. It just allows you to soak that word into your spirit in a deeper way so that it sticks with you for the rest of your life, causing you to grow. That’s what is intended, right? You may not think on it every day, but it shows up when you need it. Makes me wish I had started having One Words sooner in life.

Having “Fruit” was a reminder for me to pay attention to what I’m putting out there (on a daily basis and in my overall life). Am I producing Godly and beneficial fruit? Or is the fruit I’m producing so rotten it stinks? That One Word had me focusing on my fruit and despite my New Year and new word, it’s a reminder that I’ll always need and appreciate. Sort of like my own accountability partner.

That being said, I want to be sure I am walking in the Spirit at all times, therefore producing fruit of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.” (NKJV)

 

Self-Control - Emily's #OneWord 2015 - Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven

 

I don’t even come close to perfectly exhibiting any of these, and I am striving to do better with them all. However, I have a particularly rough time with SELF-CONTROL, my One Word 2015. I believe this is listed as a fruit of the Spirit because it is somewhat of an ugly word to our flesh.

Matthew 26:41 says, “Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” (KJV) This describes me to a T (whatever that means…)! my Spirit is oh-so-willing, but my flesh is the weakest of the weak, screaming, “LET ME HAVE MY WAY!”

It’s like John said, “He must increase, but I must decrease.” (3:30 KJV) To deny/crucify my flesh so that the spirit is in control…that’s the only way self-control works…when there is MORE of Him and LESS of me. As long as I’m in the way, nothing will work out right. It is high time for me to take spiritual authority and force my flesh to submit. Will it be easy? Probably not. But if I want to produce Godly fruit, if I want His will over mine, then I have got to be obedient to the Father, NOT the flesh.

For me, the perfect example of self-control was shown in Jesus as He hung on the cross and said, “It is finished,” instead of calling for ten thousand angels. Will I ever have it that together? No. But with Him living in me, I can do all things!

ByKaren

CURVES? Why not?

Curvy PearYou wouldn’t know it by the image of society today, but back in the day, it was considered profitable to have curves.  Men would desire to be with curvier women because it was thought that if a woman was curvy or overweight, they were of wealth.  It was assumed that they had the finances to eat whatever they wanted.  Also, men didn’t want a woman who was presumptuously, unhealthy or not strong enough to take care of things.

Another assumption, was that if a woman was of larger capacity, they were more likely to bear children.  After giving birth, stretch marks on the wife were considered a “trophy” of sorts to her spouse.
Why have things changed so much?  Our minds are programmed to think that if we are overweight, we are less of a woman than we are meant to be. I have always had the mentality that I am fat, therefore, I’m ugly or not worthy of attention.

Not knocking skinny girls… I know that they have their body issues also.

My body image in my mind must cease as is. As long as I strive to be healthy and live a healthy life, I don’t have to obsess over my weight issues.  It takes up too much of my thought process.  I am created in God’s image, therefore I can not put down His creation.

Songs of Solomon paints a picture of the bride as a well endowed woman, stating that ‘thy navel is like a round goblet…thy belly is like a heap of wheat set about with lilies.’ (Songs of Solomon 7:2)

So, if your on the skinnier side and have a “pooch” or stretch marks, it’s more than OK. It shows that you have life or have given life!  If your overweight, like me, it’s OK also!  (As long as we aren’t practicing gluttony or indulging EVERY meal. LOL)

And, if you still feel bad about yourself, (because I do at times and it does get depressing), pray for God to help you change some of your situations.  He can change your cravings, give you will power, and motivation.  We have to do our part though.

ByAngie

Sticky Hands: Disciplining Mom

DISCIPLINE

2 obsolete:instruction
3: a field of study
4: training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character
5 a: control gained by enforcing obedience or order b: orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior c:self-control
6: a rule or system of rules governing conduct or activity
Yesterday, I took a Facebook survey of my friends to see what was the first word that came to their mind when they heard the word “Discipline“. Jimmy said “Marine“, which I found honorable. Kathleen said “Behaved” which I loved. Kara joked around and mentioned spanking, but said in all seriousness “Teach“. Love that one too! Susie brought up “Consequence“, which is something it seems we all seem to forget about sometimes before we do something, so I really enjoyed this one too. Our very own Emily came back with “Being in order and in line with how you know you’re supposed to be” Wow, huh? When I asked my “Sis” Michele she stated “Inner Strength“. Great one! My buddy Keith said “Focus“, which is so true, isn’t it? Christi said “Correction“, and honestly, I was surprised we got this far down the list without it. Not because it was what I was looking for, but because many associate those to words. Tasha made a good point with “Chaos … I know .. weird, but I guess because if you don’t discipline you have chaos.” She got that one right, didn’t she? Kelli stated “Parents“. Kristianna replied “Consistent“, Dawn “In Order“, and Robin “Biblical“. I love them all! Especially Jessica’s interpretation with “Love“…
What does the above word make you think of? Probably your children, right? We want them to grow up to be wise, well mannered, and well liked so we correct them and mold them all the while praying that God guide us and use us for His good as we raise the next generation.
But what about you, Mom? Who keeps you in line? Who molds you? Who corrects you? Who teaches you? What training has brought you to a place of self control and structure? A Mom without discipline herself would have a very difficult time disciplining her children, would she not? And think about it, how can you be a disciple without discipline?
I know, you want to say “Um, duh Angie. I control myself and with the help of The Lord I do all the others…” Yeah, okay, I know you know this stuff. But I mean I want you to stop and think REALLY hard about this. Read those questions again, one at a time, and ponder them for a moment.
  • Who keeps you in line? Is it you, your pastor, your spouse, and most importantly the Lord? Maybe with a little help from friends & family? If so, good!
  • Now, who molds you? Is it God and God alone? Sure we can be influenced by others, but I am talking about molding you. There was a time that my friends molded me, the ways of celebrities and what I thought I should be instead of what God wanted me to be were how I was molded. Obviously, I had a lot of cracks and was very oddly shaped. (Not claiming to be perfect now, still a few defects there…)
  • Who is correcting and teaching you? A few months ago during the Summer, I woke up one morning and God started dealing with me to change some things in my life. The conviction was so strong that I had to stop doing the morning dishes and just cry, which lead to a lot of prayer. It was as if He had taken a switch to my backside and I instantly realized my wrong doing and WHY it was wrong when I didn’t even see it before. You’d think I’d be angry, but no, I was more in love with my Savior than before. I was so glad that I finally let HIM correct me instead of the world. So refreshing!
  • What training have you received? Well, as Christians we read our Bibles, listen to sermons, and read books penned by anointed hands. All of these used as a combination are a great way to learn to walk the straight and narrow.
Discipline from God is a key part in living in His will. As my husband says, “You shouldn’t have the intestinal fortitude of licorice.” When we stand strong, firm, practicing self-control and willing to accept His correction we find that the path, while straight and narrow, becomes a lot clearer to see.
Now, PLEASE, share your answers if you are willing. Let us all encourage each other and lift one another up!
1 Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge, But he who hates correction is stupid.2 A good man obtains favor from the Lord, But a man of wicked intentions He will condemn.3 A man is not established by wickedness, But the root of the righteous cannot be moved. Proverbs 12:1-3 NKJV