The Power Of An Apology

BySherry

The Power Of An Apology

I have to admit, I have a big mouth!! It gets me in trouble a lot!!   I am always able to stick both of my feet into it at the same time.  In the past, I had the tendency to ignore the urge to apologize.  However, I’ve been drawn more and more to apologize for my actions.

 

Today in the age of computer and social networking, it is easy to post things without even realizing that damage that can be made to ones reputation, or even be taken the wrong way; especially us women, with our wide range of emotions.

 

A few months ago, I watched a reality show on television featuring a prominent member of our city.  Not having met the gentleman, I slandered him on Facebook.  In the process I hurt two friends, who are very close to him.  Boy, did I get convicted that day.  There were many people commenting in favor of my post; however, it still didn’t set right with me.  I removed the post and apologized to all for my judgment and to my friends who were hurt.  I also said that if I ever met the gentlemen that I would apologize to him for my actions.  All the while secretly praying I wouldn’t have to meet him. HA!

 

I really think God wanted to challenge me on this.  Last night, my friends and I performed in a local talent show, and low and behold the man I judged was there.  I started getting butterflies, and started making excuses that if I kept myself away from him I wouldn’t have to apologize.  I even had a hard time singing our first song!  During intermission, I saw him talking with another friend of mine.  I walked over to him, said hello to my friend when they were done talking, and introduced myself to the man and explained what I did.  Then I apologized to him for judging him.  That was one of the hardest things that I have ever done.  He was very quick to forgive me and thanked me for having the courage to come to him and apologize.

 

Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.  And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”  You will see this verse pop up in a later blog.

 

Sometimes it’s not easy to admit when you are wrong, or that you’ve sinned.  It is easy to place the incident in the back of your mind.  That you can ask God to forgive you of your sins and He will.  Sometimes, He asks us to step out of our comfort zone and go to the other person.  I have to warn you, you may not always get a forgiving response; but, you will have the joy in knowing you did what God asked of you.  That reward is more wonderful than the response that you may receive.

 

Do you need to apologize to someone for actions?  I don’t write this to tell you how wonderfully spiritual I am, because sometimes I am not.  I do write this to challenge you to be more like Christ.  So your challenge for this week is to apologize to someone you’ve wronged.  Don’t expect them to forgive you, just repent for your part in whatever it may be.  Then rejoice in the Lord that you’ve done as He has asked.

About the author

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Sherry lives in a small town in Northern California with her husband of 20 years, Matt, and their 2 children. She is a stay at home mom, homeschools her children, and the music director at her church. She places God first in her life, then her husband, family, friends, and herself last. She believes that laughter is truly the best medicine. She enjoys singing, reading, photography, tea time, and playing the piano.

  • Muddahen

    Great thoughts Sherry! It is so easy to go right to ‘be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as Christ as forgiven you’ and gloss over — worse, skip the first portion of the thought… put away anger and malice…

    When my children were little, I often used the second half of the verse as a lesson to be kind. As important is the admonition to control the emotions raging within — the damage they do inwardly cannot be measured.

  • This is one of the verses I have been focusing on a lot lately (along with many others like it). I’m trying to soak them in. Most of them time we want to focus on the happy verses, but I’m having to challenge my flesh with the hard stuff. 🙂 Great post

  • nontokozotach

    its easy to talk about but its very hard to forgive….its only possible with God assisting us….prayer can make it happen.all my life i v struggled with the phenomena thank you for ephesians 4:31-32…its inspiring.