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The Good Cry

I’m a crier. I hate it. I love it. But I am definitely a crier. I’m a super sensitive person and I am very likely to cry at the drop of a hat. This is for sure not my favorite attribute. However, there are times when I am glad to be a crier. Don’t worry, I’m getting there.


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I’m one of those women who can totally attest to God blessing me with the perfect match. Why? Because my husband is strong and calm and can see his way through every situation. He has a good head on his shoulders (a cute one, too, *wink*). He thinks things through. He doesn’t dwell on the negative or bad things. He focuses on getting past them, rising above them, and clinging to the part where “….all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

Markus not only does this for himself, but for me, as well. He has taught me and helped me to grow out of much of my sensitivity. I have learned that I am stronger than I realized. Thanks to the influence of an amazing husband, I have come a long way.


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There are still times that I feel I could break at any moment, but I think of how far I’ve come and remember that the joy of the Lord is my strength (Nehemiah 8:10). With all that being said, there are also times that I go ahead and allow the cry to come. Hence, “The Good Cry.”

Now see, this is where God allowed me to enlighten Markus a little (yep, that’s right…marriage goes both ways). I was able to open his eyes to the way I operate (and probably a lot of other women out there). Some situations may be over and done with; I may be over and above it already, but the tears are still there. A few times I have been in these situations and as the tears are flowing, Markus will say something like, “Well, honey, there’s nothing we can do about it. We just have to pray.” And because of his influence, I completely understand what he’s telling me. But because of my influence, he understands why my response usually sounds like this, “I know babe. I really do, but I still just have to cry it out.”




Crying it out. That’s what the good cry is all about. Release. The good cry allows you to cry it out and bring your spirit release. It doesn’t mean your dwelling on the situation in a negative way. It doesn’t mean you’re mad or angry. It doesn’t mean you’re letting the hurt and pain sink deep within to stay there. The good cry is quite the opposite. It means you’re giving the situation over to God without saying the words. Psalm 56:8 talks about God bottling our tears. He knows and understands every tear we cry, even when we can’t comprehend them ourselves. When the good cry is all cried out, our soul feels relieved and we can rest assured that God has every situation in His hands.

After the good cry. That is when I’m glad to be a crier. And if you believe you’re in need of a good cry…go ahead. God is listening. He has your bottle ready, and He’s waiting for you to cry it out.


Heart Cleaning

Pope John Paul II said, “It’s better to cry than to be angry, because anger hurts others, while tears flow silently through the soul and cleanses the heart.”

I believe that he knew what he was talking about, because you can not come up with a statement like this without first, going through some pain.

Anyone who knows me, knows that once I start crying, I can not stop.  I’m a crier… Not little cries, but the sloppy, messy, runny nose, ugly cries.  I wear my heart on my sleeve.  I put up a wall so that others can’t get close enough to hurt me. I don’t deal with it very well.

Anyone who has been a Christian very long can tell you that Christians are mean. Plain and simple. Most of the time, they mean well, but don’t realize that actions speak louder than words and the hurt and pain is very real. Church hurt is the worst hurt.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my brothers and sisters in Christ deeply. Sometimes, they have no clue what they have said or done.  That is why we must forgive quickly.  If I held a grudge, God would hold me accountable.

When I feel hurt or disappointed, the tears come.  Not because I’m mad or angry, but because it has to cleanse my heart of the pain it felt.

It was once said, “Your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts.”

If I’m able to help someone else who is hurting or has been hurt, it will be worth it.  It’s all gonna be worth it in the end anyways…

So, it’s OK to cry.  I always feel better after it’s washed away anyways…

Psalms 51:10 says, “create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.”  Let God wash away the hurt so that your spirit doesn’t suffer.  The feeling of renewal is refreshing.