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ByAngie

Where Does My Legacy Begin?

Knowing how to go about being a Godly example that will be kindly remembered is not easy for all. Especially for those who did not have an example set before them as they were being raised. It’s really not a difficult thing to do, but figuring out where to start can be a challenge, as with anything unfamiliar.

My personal advice would be to start praying with your children. Not just for them or quick bedtime, illness, or meal prayers. All of those prayers are important also. However, when you pray with them you are teaching them how to pray and feel comfortable praying in front of others.

Another idea that would be wonderful is to begin a family devotion time. Whether it be daily or weekly, it gives you a chance to sit and discuss the Lord with your children. Think your little ones wouldn’t enjoy? You might just be surprised! There are quite a few options as far as devotional books and Bibles go for kids and families of all ages. Even toddlers!

The obvious suggestion: Attend church and take your children. This will give them a good habit to have when they’re older. “Sunday means church time” will be instilled in their hearts and minds.

I know all of these things seem so simple, but they really do make a world of difference!

How about you? Is there anything you’re doing to help create your legacy? I’d love to hear about it!

 

ByDiania

Anyone Can Be A Mommy… Can You Be A Mother?

I sit around thinking about things I wish I would have done different while raising my children…

For the biggest part I know most of us do the best we can, and love our children with everything we have. From the time we hear we are going to have our little bundle we are excited for the coming day. We think of our ”BABY” as just that, a ”BABY”. When in actuality we are raising an adult.

The baby years are the fastest years of your child’s life, everything he is taught in his first few years will be carried with him to adulthood. You are his teacher of life; There to show him how to grow into a Godly man. It was never Gods intention just to give you a baby and not expect you to train him up in the ways of the Lord. Whats expected of you goes far beyond diaper changing and toilet training. You have taken on the responsibility of raising one of Gods greatest gifts.

Being a mommy for a few years is the easy part. Being a mother is for life. You can choose to do this job with a loving heart and a lot of prayer, or you can sit back and just pray for the years to hurry and pass… But tell me, what kind of memories will you have if you don’t do your best to raise Gods greatest gift? There is no going back to change what’s already been done.

All the women who write here are not here to condemn or judge. We are simply mothers who have been through what you are going through. Here to try to make it just a little easier. The advice is all free, whether you choose to take it is up to you. How you choose to raise your child is up to you too. I pray you choose to tell him everyday about Jesus and pray for God’s hand to keep him from evil. Someday, when he is older he will thank you and call you blessed. He will know he had the best mother God could have given him. Another one of His greatest gifts.

So from Mommy to Mother, how will you choose to accept Gods gift? My prayers are with every mother out there doing one of the hardest and most important jobs in the world. May God bless you on your journey…

Love,

ByAngie

Sticky Hands: Art & Craft Time With Mommy

Okay, so I know not everyone likes to do crafts.

But what about those of us that do?

Do you gather your children around the kitchen table, break out the glue gun, and let the kids go crazy with the tempera? I do… sometimes… wish I did more. (Here is where I do my shameless plug for my Pinterest account. Check it out via the link on our home page. Lots of awesome ideas on that site for inspiration!)

One thing that I like to do sometimes is to have a “themed” craft. Something to go along with something else going on in our lives… or a Bible story that I am teaching the kids at the time.

Try it: Incorporate a verse, prayer, or song into your craft! Your children will learn more about The Lord and you’ll be able whisper a prayer under your breath. (Hopefully for something other than not getting red paint on your white walls…)

ByAngie

Creating A Legacy

Isn’t it funny? There are a million books and websites you turn to when you find out you’ll be a mother. You’re worried about everything from what to eat, how to decorate the nursery, making sure you set a Godly example, sleep routines, safety, and fashion. Sadly, in the midst of most mainstream books, blogs, and websites the whole subject of passing on your family legacy or even creating one is left out. (Notice I said “mainstream”, there are a ton of resources, just not “popular” ones.)

For a lot of you, this may come easily. Others, not so much. Maybe you came from a family where legacy wasn’t important or a broken home and you were left confused. Or, perhaps, unfortunately you didn’t know your parents. Some of you may have had a wonderful legacy as far as family, but you’re parents did not instill Christian values. Just where does one start or even begin?

What does “legacy” mean? Webster defines it as:

Definition of LEGACY

1: a gift by will especially of money or other personal property : bequest
2: something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past

A legacy can include teachings, morals, traditions, thoughts, property, name, etc. It literally covers just about everything, as long as it is passed down. The goal is to make it a worthy legacy. Something that your children’s children will say, “I am who I am, because of my legacy, and for that I am grateful.”

How do you do this, exactly? Well, it’s certainly not simple. In a nutshell, think of what is in your life that you want to pass down and amplify that. Think of what you do not want to pass down and bring that to a halt. Children are sponges, soaking in every thing we put out whether good or bad. (Ouch, huh? It hurt me to type that last part, probably more than it did for you to read it. 😉 )

I, personally, grew up in a Pastor’s home. My Grandparents were very Godly and amazing to our family as are my parents. However, even so, there are things that I want to pass down that are “my own” but still of Christ.

I wish I could fit this all into one post. I’m sorry. I know I have 4 other series going right now, but when God says to write, I write. So here it is: On Fridays I will be writing “Creating A Legacy”. Please remember that I am no expert, just somewhat experienced and still learning. Feel free to chime in at any time with comments, questions, suggestions, etc.

God bless and have a great weekend!

ByAngie

Sticky Hands: DANCE PARTY!!!

Taking your children to a disco is NOT endorsed by Raising Sticky Hands To Heaven

Here we are again, it’s Thursday already!!! Yikes!

Have you had a hard time finding time for prayer, praise, and worship this week? I know I have. So I pulled an old trick out of my sleeve. “Dance Party”.

This is really difficult, so place close attention:

  1. Turn on fast, upbeat, fun Christian music.
  2. Gather the kids.
  3. Tell the kids to dance fast. Dance with them. Make it fun, be silly!
  4. While it’s going, sing along, pray, praise, & worship our Creator.

Wait, that’s not at all difficult, is it?

The best part is the list of benefits. Exercise for all, prayer time, you set an example, everyone has fun, and the kids get all their wigglies out. In fact, your littles may nap right after if you keep it up long enough!

If you’re family is large enough, you could start practicing to do a Christian flash mob. (Totally kidding… but hey, it’d be fun!)

Keep doin’ the good work, Moms. Keep praying as you go, raising those sticky hands as often as you can. Store up your treasures in Heaven, and in still the importance of God in your children’s hearts.

Disclaimer: Don’t have a dance party right after lunch. If you do, next thing you know you might be having a puke party. Just sayin’…

ByKaren

And the Best Friend Award Goes To…

While reading the status’s of young pre-teen girls, I find them somewhat humorous and sometimes very irritating. Being the mother of a pre-teen, I get a glimpse of what is going on in their circle of friends. I have found that who ever gives the “invite” of the week is the “bestie” of the moment… In other words, if my daughter invites so and so over for the night, she instantly becomes so and so’s best friend! Just like that. Magical huh?

Some of the same girls will post their ‘best friend’ each day and it’s amazing how different they look from day to day. One of these days, they will learn what a true friend is. I have different levels of friends. While my sister is my best friend and my husband is my best friend, I also have Angie, Lynn, and my mom who are my best friends. They are on different levels because they all offer me a different aspect of friendship. They don’t have to invite me over to spend the night, lol, or give me money, or buy my friendship. It’s offered freely. It’s not a lose, win, what do I have to gain, get me out of the house away from my parents thing. I can tell them anything and they aren’t going to tell everyone else. I can call them for prayer at any hour of the day.

Quality of friendship takes time to build and if your constantly shifting it, it won’t have a chance to grow. I know that you learn these things as you go and as you get older, but if words of advice are heard in advance, it may take them on a shorter detour in life instead of the long way around.

ByAngie

A “Simple” Calling: The Ministry Of Motherhood

Okay, first of all: We’re all mommies here, so we all know that to call motherhood a “simple” calling is really kind of a joke. Being a mom is one of the most difficult and most rewarding jobs one can ever have. But my point can be explained here.

Some of us knew from a young age that we would one day answer the call. We played with dolls, dreamed of having a family, and played “house” every chance we got. Others? They had no idea that motherhood would be a part of their life’s journey. Either their perspective changed or it “snuck up on them”, so to speak. At the same time, some of us came about it very easily and for others it was a full on battle to acquire.

Angie with her 2 oldest children in August of 2006

Regardless, the call is still the same. In reality, it is not simple at all. We are responsible for a new generation that will take over after us. The future is literally on us. The morals that the next generation will have or not have are in our hands. Should we not do our best to bring them up right, we will be the ones who have to answer. Like I said, far from simple.

Let me stop right here and point out I am NOT an expert. I don’t even consider myself an amazing mother. I do my best from day to day, and pray that God leads me to what he wants me to do in this ministry to my children.

So while we are not leading millions to The Lord, we are making a big impression. What can we do with this ministry? Well, here are just a few things, in no particular order…

  • Pray. Without ceasing. Pray for your children when you wake up, when you make their breakfast, when you wash their clothes/dishes, when they are well, when they are sick. Pray when they go to bed, pray when you go to bed. Pray for guidance, and for their souls.
  • Study. Mostly the Bible. But also, Dr. Dobson, Dr. Kevin Leman, and many many others have written many wonderful books on the subject of Christian parenting. I don’t know how many times just studying a true experts suggestions, prayers, findings, and opinions have helped me in my own journey.
  • Teach. Read Bible stories to your children. Make sure they learn manners. Have a weekly memory verse. Give them appropriate chores. Your child learning about Jesus, morals, and character development are imperative. I’m not saying pull your kid out of school and teach them everything at home. To each their own. Do it in your daily life, read a couple picture books with your younger children. Talk about it with your older children. Refer above to “pray” & “study”.
  • Be patient. They are only children. They are still growing, learning, and are constantly adapting. Cut them a little slack. Don’t be too strict.
  • Love. Most importantly, because if you don’t show God’s love to your children, who will? They thrive on love, and as their mother, they need it from you.
  • Discipline. Don’t be afraid of it. However, keep it appropriate and within reason. Once again, I suggest “study”.
  • Make time. Quality time goes a LONG way. Little things like house work can wait. For years many told me this, only as my oldest has turned 10 this year am I realizing I missed out a lot on the first few months of his life while I obsessed over the state of my home.
  • Be an example. Don’t be a “Say as I do, not as I do” mom. Give them something to aim for, not to settle for.

Yeah, I know this all looks great in print but another story in reality. Trust me: I have 5 kids, 2 of which I do not have full time physical but only joint legal custody over. In addition, my other 3 that live with me are all ages 3 and under. I definitely know. Some of this that I’ve listed are really things I’ve only learned recently. Others, things I’m learning right now. Some, I knew from the beginning. But ALL are a challenge.

Once again, motherhood is not easy. But it is call of God. Never think otherwise. Do your best, as it’s all you can do. Before you know it, our babies will be grown and have babies of their own… and we’ll miss this. Deeply.

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 NKJV

 

A very special THANK YOU to Diania for her insight on this post… You’re the best!

ByDiania

Becky: My Daughter, My Joy

Dear Becky,

I was going to write you a poem to tell you how proud i am of you, but i thought you deserved better. From the day you were born you have been my joy, I could not be more proud of you than I am today; To see the work that God has done in you and how he has blessed your life makes me so proud to call you my daughter. I can sit back today and tell you how much I love my nieces but when God gave me a daughter he gave me his very best. There is nothing about you that I would change. From the first time I held you in my arms you had stolen my heart, and as I sit here today I can honestly say you still hold it in your hands. I could pray for God to send you home but then I would only be interfering with His plan for your life, and that is not something I want to hinder. Instead I will choose to sit back and watch  the work in your life unfold. Your obedience to God’s word will always keep you blessed. I use to worry about you but I know God has put His angels in charge over you. I know when I close my eyes at night that His eyes are on you and you are going to be just fine.I want you to know that the distance between us will never change how much I love you and how proud I am of you. Nothing you do or accomplish goes unnoticed. My eyes are still on you just like they were when you were first born.and they still look at you with amazement. I AM ALWAYS IN AWE OF WHAT GOD MAY HAVE PLANNED FOR YOU.  Sometimes I think you are the only thing i did right in my life, so what ever it is you are doing please don’t stop. Remember where God has pulled you from and build on that.  And always remember that you are my daughter, my joy and I wouldn’t change that for anything in the world!

Love you forever

Your Mother

Originally written by Diania on September 17, 2010

ByAngie

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But we’re not bitter…

 

Dear Lord, Please don’t let us end up on Tosh.O, Break.com, or any other one of those hilarious shows… Ugh… Only for those we love would we do this, because we would NEVER not acknowledge them on camera. 😉 In Jesus’ name we pray. And the church & blog world said AMEN!!!

ByAngie

Sticky Hands: Burden Or Blessing?

How do you view your children? Are they wonderful to have around? Do you enjoy their presence? Or do you dread the moment they wake up, complain about them all day, yell nonstop, call them names, constantly try to pawn them off on others, and dream of the day they move out?

Unfortunately, many mothers view their children as the latter. We live in a day where children are disposable; Where those that are unwanted can just be dropped off in a “Safe Haven” or aborted before they even have a chance .

The Bible says this:

3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward.4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth.5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

Psalm 127:3-5 NKJV

Children are never “No big deal”. They should not be seen and not heard. They should NEVER be forced to grow up too quickly because you’re just tired of kids running around. They are a privilege, not a right. It is time for people to wake up and stop treating them as such! Don’t like it? Get a dog. Not a baby. (Oh boy, don’t get me started on people who treat their animals better than their children…)

I guess this is more sensitive for me, given my circumstance with my older 2 children. What I would give to have my kids nagging me and being loud all day, every day. HA! Okay, maybe not to that extent, but you do know what I mean. Also, being the mother of a 10 1/2 year old, I have finally realized that these years do fly right by. As Momma Ann, Karen and Emily’s Mom, always says, “Don’t blink!”

It is natural for us to become tired from time to time, and that I understand. Call a girlfriend and go out to dinner or find a baby sitter so you can have a night out alone with your husband. We’re all going to have bad days. Just don’t get in the habit and find yourself taking your child for granted.

I pray that each of you realize your potential as a mother, the gift we’ve been given, and that God will never give us more than we can handle.