Do you have goals? Dreams? I’m gonna go ahead and guess that if you answered no, then you lied. 😉 God has chosen goals and dreams for you, as well. And if you truly love Him, your goals/dreams match up with His. They translate into what is your destiny….your purpose. That’s right, our lives are purposed.
In our everyday lives, we have a tendency to operate in a Negative Nelly attitude. We want what we want when we want it and refuse to accept any other option. And when we know that we know God’s plans for us, we get an even uglier attitude as we hear the word ‘wait.’ It’s like we’ve taken the role as an actor in the J. G. Wentworth commercials, screaming at God, “IT’S MY DREAM AND I WANT IT TO MANIFEST NOW!”
I know we’ve all been there. Yes, I tend to write from experience. Still waiting for the soul mate God is preparing just for you? Yep. So in the mean time you plan to help Him out by joining internet dating sites. Called to be a Sunday School teacher, but it’s not your time yet? Yep. So impatiently you huff away from the church you’re in to rush into a position at another church. Or maybe you have a special gift or calling, but right now, your job is to scrub the toilets. Instead of gracefully scrubbing, you scrub with a spiteful attitude muttering things like, “I don’t know why I have to keep doing this while Sis. So-n-so gets to be in the choir. I sing better than her anyway.”
There are many other scenarios that we all usually handle the same way….we know what we want and the Negative Nelly in us can’t help but murmur and complain about the wait. Did you ever stop to think that your negative attitude is hindering your purpose? Maybe Sis. So-n-so has done her time scrubbing toilets and did so joyfully, anticipating the better things she knew were in store. Maybe Mr. Right is ready and patiently waiting for you, but your attitude is standing in the way. Often times we even barge into something too early and operate prematurely, getting in over our heads.
Yes, we may know what God’s purpose is for us, but we ought to have a positive attitude at all times. Even when we are having to scrub toilets, even when we’ve been waiting and waiting and it’s time to hurry up and wait some more—whatever the case, we must keep a positive attitude. Our attitudes should reflect the loving God who called us to our purpose in the first place. Even when it’s not happening according to our timing.
I’ll leave you with this— attitudes are contagious. Are you spreading around a good one or a bad one? Negative Nellies pull down those around them, draining themselves and others of joy and strength. Positive Pollies lift up and encourage people, dancing in puddles and looking for the rainbows in the midst of the storm. As Christians, we must choose to remain positive and purposed at all times. Who knows? Our destiny may be right around the corner.
2012 is out, over and done. Enter 2013. As I reflect on last year, I realize it was filled with both good and bad. Thankfully, the good is what jumps out to me the most. I’m sure that everything in 2013 will not be perfect, but I plan to enjoy it as much as possible. I have the choice to focus and zero in on everything amazing and not dwell on the negative. We all have that choice.
No matter what happened in the year 2012, one thing remained true. And no matter what happens in this new year of 2013, that one thing will still remain true. God’s love never fails, it never gives up, and it will never run out on me or you. I am so thankful for that remarkable love that He has for us. No other love will ever be able to compare!
One Thing Remains
Higher than the mountains that I face
Stronger than the power of the grave
Constant through the trial and the change
One thing remains
One thing remains
Your love never fails it never gives up it never runs out on me x3
On and one and on and on it goes
It overwhelms and satisfies my soul
And I never ever have to be afraid
One thing remains
In death and in life I’m confident and covered by the power of your great love
My debt is paid there’s nothing that can separate my heart from your great love
Feeling gloomy, lately? Or a little down? Or maybe you feel drained of all your energy? I get that way sometimes. Believe me, it’s not fun. Not only is it not fun, but I don’t have time for it! I usually wake up every morning quoting (more like declaring) Psalm 118:24, “This is the day the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it.” However, sometimes life just happens and gets you off kilter. I’ve found a few scriptures to share that are bound to help turn the gloomy situations around.
“A merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones.”- Proverbs 17:22. Surround yourself with happy, positive people. Laughter really is the best medicine.
“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.”- Proverbs 16:24. Once again, surround yourself with only the positive. And don’t forget to remain positive yourself. Being encouraged is great and helps so much, but remember to also be an encourager.
Every morning I begin to pray as soon as I wake up. I don’t wait til I’m up and out of bed. I immediately thank God for waking me up to a new day first thing. Then, as I’ve stated before, I declare that this IS the day the Lord has made and that I WILL rejoice and be glad in it. I CHOOSE to have a good day.
Yesterday morning, my eyes began to flutter open, and I began to pray. And out of no where, I started CHOOSING AND REFUSING.
“I REFUSE to be depressed. I REFUSE to be down on myself. I REFUSE to be negative. I REFUSE to not be all that I can be. I REFUSE to be in pain. I REFUSE to give the devil an inch. I REFUSE to lose. I REFUSE to give in. I REFUSE to give up. I REFUSE!”
“I CHOOSE to be happy. I CHOOSE to have an awesome day. I CHOOSE to be victorious. I CHOOSE to walk in the authority God has entrusted me with. I CHOOSE to have joy. I CHOOSE to be positive. I CHOOSE to be all that God called me to be. I CHOOSE to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world. I CHOOSE to represent my Father. I CHOOSE to be the head and not the tail. I CHOOSE to be the lender and not the borrower. I CHOOSE to be blessed. I CHOOSE!”
I had never done this before, but my spirit man took over. It was like I all of a sudden realized that I have a voice. I have a choice. I mean, I knew this to an extent, but it struck me and I became forceful in my declarations. I should have been doing this all along, but it is never too late to CHOOSE and REFUSE.
Take a moment in your life to CHOOSE and REFUSE. You have the power in your tongue. Use it.
So, here you are. You’ve gone through all of the steps to make your lemonade & construct your lemonade stand by grieving, forgiving, accepting, and moving on. Now you have reached the point where you set up shop, practice good customer service, and make those sales.
“Huh? What are you even talking about? Stop with the metaphors or at least explain them!”
(If achieving this step is just too much work, consider seeking counseling. There is no shame in asking someone for a little help. Also, depression is a very serious illness that can happen to anyone. It is not something that you can “just snap out of”. Seek help if you need it, please.)
So, what do you do now? Sit back, relax, and drink some lemonade!!!
Facebook has gotten to be more than just a social site. It’s definitely like living in a fantasy world. People put statuses that you know are directed at you and you know that they would never have the guts to say them to your face. If you see in on Facebook, you know it must be the honest to God truth. Rumors are started out of the most simplest of statuses and you know that it was made more out of it than it really is.
Accusations are thrown at others out of nowhere. Everyone is perfect and make no mistakes. The Gospel according to John becomes the gospel according to Suzy, Jake, Chad, Norma… etc.
Fights become public and disagreements become “hate”. No one is to blame for any of their actions and no one will take responsibility to any pain that they cause for someone.
Someone is always down in the dumps. People judge others for everything they do or say, whether it be good or bad. If you get blessed, they say that you don’t deserve it. If something happens to you in a bad way, you must have deserved it somehow.
Then there are those who hold it against you if you always have something positive to put. You can’t win for losing.
Let’s get Facebook going on a positive track. I know that we can’t change everybody’s thought process, but we can start with our own friends list. If they don’t like it, there is always a delete button… just sayin’… 🙂
In the words of Rodney King, “Why can’t we all just get along?”
A friend loves at all times… Proverbs 17:17 NKJV
This calling is a rather obvious one… but I would like to still touch on the topic of friendship.
What does it mean to be a true friend? Is it just a social thing? Obviously, it is not. If it were, we would not become so emotional when a friend is lost. Does it mean to be dependable? How about caring? Being a good listener? Offering advice when requested? Understanding and compassionate? I think all of those things and so much more are what make a good friend.
How many times have you been having a bad day, but a good friend called and you instantly cheered right up? I know for me, personally, I have just a few friends that I can vent to. Isn’t it nice to have someone who you can rant to and know that they won’t think differently of you for it? How about knowing you have someone praying for you when you need it? Or a friend who will be honest when your hair color washes you out and you’re jeans make you look great? And of course, it’s great to know you can turn to someone, pour your heart out, and know that anything you tell them won’t be passed on to someone else.
We should always strive to be a good friend, not a mediocre one. We can’t be perfect, but we should try to not be flaky, negative, or distant. Reliable, uplifting, close, and available as much as possible.
What are some ways you can minister to a friend though?
Remember, you can’t choose your family… You CAN choose your friends… CHOOSE WISELY!!! Never let anyone walk all over you in the name of “friendship.” Show God’s love, yes. Be a door mat, no.
And now, in honor of Karen and her love for nostalgic television, I leave you with this… Get the cheesecake!
“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade…”
What does this mean exactly? Basically, to take something sour & bitter and turn it into something sweet. A negative into a positive. As Christians, we deal with this on a different level as we are to spread God’s love to a dying world.
In every day situations, this may be easy to do. But what about when the unthinkable happens? Something so traumatic, that finding the pros is completely impossible when there are so many cons lined up against you? It becomes difficult to find the good with the bad, and to show love and be positive to others when we feel so full of hurt/anger/sadness and negativity.
I’ll be the first to say, this is not my favorite subject to write about. It has taken me a long time to learn this lesson myself. But when God says “write”, by golly, you better write.
So, from here we will begin a Tuesday series. I hope you’ll follow along and read what the Lord has told me to write and be blessed.