Now we all have our ups and downs and battles and bad days. I depend on my Heavenly Father to get me thru those times. And boy, do I have a lot of them!
That said, (let me pull out my soap box right quick), OK, I can not stand a nasty attitude, especially in a grown woman. It looks nasty and sounds nasty when woman go around bad mouthing, threatening to whoop somebody, and always trying to tell somebody off. It’s a big turn off for potential friendship.
In Ephesians 4:29 says,
“Let no corrupt communication come out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use if edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
Lying, gossip, telling someone off, and bad language all fall under corrupt communication.
2 Corinthians 6:17 & 18 –
“Wherefore, come out from amoung them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing, and I will receive you, and will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.”
Being a Christian, I can not live like the world. I have to set myself apart from all things that are not of Christ. Which means that I can not pop off at the mouth or tell everything I know about someone. I have to live a separated life and ask God to “create in me a clean heart.” (Psalms 51:10)
“How beautiful are the feet of them that preach the gospel of peace and bring glad tidings of good things!”
Blessings and cursings do not come out of the same fountain. I can not stand it when people say that they are desperately praying for this or that, or praying for someone, and in the next breath, they are cursing someone else or putting someone down. I do not believe that God honors prayers from a heart that does not honor Him. It stinks in His nostrils. You want Him to do something for you, but you don’t have time to live for Him? You don’t put Him first but you want things your way?
Strive to spread the good things in life and of God and to speak the gospel of peace, not corruption. When you find yourself falling being and into old habits, just cry out, “Oh Lord Jesus, help me!”, and He will be there for you.
Sis. Judye Jackson, a very gifted teacher, spoke at church on “Family Trees” and about the legacy we leave behind. This got me thinking- my life is a direct influence on the lives of my children. Whether I realize it or not, they pay attention to everything I say or do. This sort of worries me.
See, I have a habit of looking at my very attractive husband and telling him that he is sexy. Why? Because he is and I am madly in love with him. The next thing I know, I’m driving down the road when I hear my three-year-old daughter, Naomi, say, “Mommy, Daddy’s sexy, ain’t he?” Extreme heat crept from my neck into my cheeks. Yes, I do believe my husband is sexy, but do I want my three-year-old to share that information? Umm…no!
Then there are the moments I live for- she sets an example and makes me proud. As I’m babysitting for a friend, her little girl says, “Oh my God.” I’m not on my soap box or anything, but I teach my children not to say that. Naomi looks at her friend, and in her best serious voice says, “We’re not supposed to say that.” Her friend says, “I’m trying to stop,” and they continue to play. You would have thought the forbidden phrase contained curse words.
I’ve learned that in the process of raising my kids, they notice everything. This means that they see in me the good, the bad and the ugly. When I’m mad and frustrated and I want to rip my hair out, they see. When I’m praising through the battle and giving God the glory no matter what, they see.
I wonder if my children will start conversations with my future grandchildren with the phrase, “My Mom always said…..” And I wonder– if they use that phrase, what will they say that I said?