“Oh, we had such a wonderful night/day. The dog and cat were holding hands. The kids got along just great and I’ve never ruined a supper. Honestly. Never.”
We are all human. We all make mistakes. While someone’s trial is coming to an end, someone else’s is just beginning. We go thru cycles of ups and downs. It is a natural part of life. We can not always be on the mountain top. Nothing grows on the mountain top. All of the growth, nutrients, and trials, are while down in the valley. But the God of the mountain top experience is still God in the valley!
While on Facebook or another web site, it’s easy to pretend like everything is hunky dory… You never face a trial and instead of lifting others up during theirs, you put them down or make them feel guilty for feeling something other than pure bliss.
Well folks, life is not always blissful on the other side of the computer. There are a lot more who are out there struggling and hurting and choose to face their trials alone, because others have shamed them into secrecy.
I’ll be the first to say, that I AM NOT PERFECT, just forgiven. Though I may be on the mountain top now, when the valley experience comes, I will know that it didn’t come to stay, it came to pass, that it’s for my good and my growth, and that my faith will remain in the Lord.
In July of 2004, I made friends with a group of people in an IHOP. If you know me, this comes as no surprise. We ended up merging our tables and the other group came and sat with my group. One of these persons is a guy who we will refer to as “Chuck”…
That night was full of fun and laughter. I kept in touch with a few via phone, text, myspace, email, etc. “Chuck” was one of them. A few years later we reacquainted. I was busy with work/life and never thought twice about him. He was dating Julie, who I didn’t know.
Fast forward a few months: “Chuck” is about to leave for deployment (He was a Marine) and wants to meet up, just as friends. Before you know it, “Chuck” and I are dating. Only mentioned an ex-girlfriend a few times. Leaves for Iraq, and while there: rips my heart to shreds. I was left hurt, very confused, and angry. I was determined before that to never fall for anyone again, and I did… only to be let down.
In the time we were dating before he left, I got to know some of his friends. One was his best friend’s girlfriend, Le Anna. When “Chuck” and I broke up, she insisted I come along on a girls night. She brought 2 other girls. Steph and….. Julie, who also brought her now husband. I realized within seconds she was the girl in the pictures with “Chuck” a few months before I started dating him, but we were very cool with each other and quickly became friends. Before the end of the night, she ended up consoling me, and we both insisted we had to remain in contact.
That was almost 5 years ago. Now, I could easily look back on all of that and say “God, why? Why did you allow my heart to be broken?” However, I look at it like this, “God, thank you for the gift of friendship you have given me in these 3 women. Especially Julie. She’s always there right when I need her with a wise word, song lyric, or scripture. It was all worth it to know these girls!”
God knows what he’s doing, people. All the time. Even when we aren’t serving him at the time. And what may seem like something horrible in your midst, never forget that something good can come from it. Even the Bible states this:
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
Romans 8:28 NKJV
A month after I met Julie, I met and married my husband Bobby who is the love of my life. I could have NEVER imagined that I would ever find someone like him. He is a dream come true and one of the greatest gifts God ever gave me. I quickly forgot about “Chuck”, and still had 3 awesome new friends! A few months later, Julie and Chad were married and remain to be very happy.
You know what that means…
“Chuck” is apparently “Good Luck”… If you’re single and tired of it, I suggest looking him up… Just kidding. Save yourself the trouble, don’t. Just be friends with us instead.